Thursday, May 13, 2010

Why are men forced to provide resources outside of marriage and mated pair-bond for the first time in history?

Why do men lose custody (by default), isolated from their families, and forced to support a ';family'; that is never going to be his again. How is this different from, or any better than, rape?Why are men forced to provide resources outside of marriage and mated pair-bond for the first time in history?
This is because the feminists vision of the new matriarchy is slightly different than the one we knew before patriarchy. It is what I like to call viral matriarchy because it uses some of the systems of the patriarchy much like a virus might use the hosts bloodstream for its own purposes.





Under patriarchy, women sacrifice their right to sexual promiscuity and the exclusive right to parenthood in exchange for support from a male provider. However, women have recently identified in the legal system (an aspect of patriarchal civilization) an alternate route for securing this male support. Rather than eliciting the desired behaviour from males, they now simply convince the government to use its enormous powers of coercion to force men to fall into line and comply with their wishes.





Basically they are able to get the financial support of a husband (which is all they really want men for) but without any reciprocal obligations on their part and without sacrificing their right to have promiscuous sex with other men.





@ I eat License plates: Why thank you :)Why are men forced to provide resources outside of marriage and mated pair-bond for the first time in history?
It really isn't against men. Men just happen to be the one who often chooses to leave the house. Once you leave that house, you're going to have to fight damn hard for what you left behind. They say that posession is 9/10's of the law.





Everyone loses in that ';family';. Not just the mother or father, but the children have significant loss. They'd love to see their family back together - as one unit again. But, they cope with the changes and slowly learn to enjoy the differences between their 2 homes.





ETA: The law wants parents to have 50/50 custody of the children. Those who are unable to adequately care for their children 50% of the time then have visitation ordered. Believe it or not, the law believes that mothers and fathers are equal.
Well in the past, couples remained married even if the relationship lost its sizzle. Adultery was rampant, closeted, tolerated. Of course, women were forced to tolerate it because it was the only option they had to maintain reasonable security for themselves and the children.





In today's society we view relationships as disposable, but the children they produce are not. It's a social conundrum not unlike the ethical dilemma we face as a result of technology advancing too quickly. What appears to be a good short term solution has negative effects long-term.





Of course, I object to your rape analogy, as any rape survivor would.


You were a willing participant in creating those children, you need to uphold the associated responsibility. You DO have a choice, ya know...you could choose marriage and family life. Marriage is not what you see in fairy tales, and ';happily ever after'; only comes to those who work for it.
The court decided that a woman's relationship with her offspring begins at conception while a man's relationship begins at birth. This overly simplistic and grossly inaccurate assumption completely ignores those who plan for and hope for children, often years or even decades before that realization, in which the relationship with the child-to-be has developed from a life-long commitment and pursuit.





It is a rather distasteful state of affairs.
because men are lower than worms according to the US legal system.

What the hell does a catholic priest know about marriage or any real adult relationship?

if you want a divorce from a catholic marriage you have to go to counseling with a man who has never even had a sexual relationship(supposedly)What the hell does a catholic priest know about marriage or any real adult relationship?
Yeah, seems pretty screwey...kinda like a social worker fresh out of college with no kids.What the hell does a catholic priest know about marriage or any real adult relationship?
It is sad to see people being so ignorant. Before you make comments on how a preist is out of his skill set or anything of the such you should understand what marriage is. Its not a contract and until you realize it is a sacrament in the eyes of god and both parties involved

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Just like in all counseling, education and experience.





Did you know that no marriage counselors (even non-priests) are required to have been married?





An experienced and understanding priest can have thousands of hours of marriage counseling under his belt. He probably has heard every story several times. He knows what to say and how to say it. He will know more about real life marriage than most (not all) married couples.





Even a relatively new priest has taken counseling and psychology classes in his (at least) eight years of college and further years of on the job training.





By the way, priests are real adults and have real adult relationships. They just happen to be celibate relationships just like those of hundreds of millions of single adults in the world.





With love in Christ.
%26lt;%26lt;What the hell does a catholic priest know about marriage or any real adult relationship?%26gt;%26gt;





The priest knows more about marriage than half of the couples who have been married.








%26lt;%26lt;if you want a divorce from a catholic marriage you have to go to counseling with a man who has never even had a sexual relationship(supposedly)%26gt;%26gt;





Wrong.





1) Marriage is a Sacred institution forged in a Holy Sacrament. How knows more about the Sacred than priests?





2) Also, there's more to marriage than sex. One does not need to have had sex in order to know something about it.





For example: Sex is a Sacred Act. It is the consumation of the marital union - which is why it must only take place between a husband and wife.





Bet you didn't know that, and here I thought non-priests were the experts on sex.





Lastly, it is theologically possible for a married man to become a priest. I bet you didn't know that either. So much for non-priestly wisdom when it comes to sex and marriage.
How can any professional, or just anyone in general, know about something they haven't experienced for themselves? But you still go to your friends for advise don't you? You still go to family members for their insight. as human beings, they have insight into the human condition.





Also of note, The Church doesn't allow divorce. Any divorce of a Catholic couple would be civil, and not at all recognised by the Church, so there would be no reason for a court to force them to see a priest.
Priests know about marriage from training and observation. I mean, how much does the COUPLE know about marriage before being married? Training and observation.





As for your complaint about counseling, is sex the only reason you want a divorce? Highly unlikely. Usually the problems that lead couples to divorce have NOTHING to do with sex, and the priest is fully trained and capable of helping them get things worked out. Matrimony is a SACRAMENT for Catholics, and priests have an interest in helping couples achieve healthy, happy marriages.
I agree to an extent there are problems with the Catholic Church but you cannot say that you will make changes from within on thing such as abortion, homosexuality, birth control or women priests. These are basic tenents of our faith. If these are things that you feel that strongly about then it would be right for you to leave the Catholic Church because you are not in communion with the Church. If you are upset with the music at mass or the amount of time your parish or diocese spends with the poor by all means speak up and work to change it, but what people have to realize is that the Catholic Church is a package deal when it comes to the tenents of the faith. If there are things in the Catechism that you are not sure about study and learn why we believe such a thing because once you start picking and choosing which parts of the Catechism to believe you have started making your own rules. This happend long ago in the 1500 a man was upset, and for the most part rightly so with the Catholic Church but he decided to make his own rules. That man was Martin Luther and we all know what happened next. So while I agree with your statement on the outset, there are certain things that will not change and that is why we are the Catholic Church. God Bless!!!
Marriage and family life is not just a human institution but a divine decree and has supernatural meaning. So the priest knows the purpose of God in making a man and a woman into a single flesh in marriage.
1) Some Catholic priests are married. They are very common in the Eastern rites of the Catholic Church.





2) I've never heard of this requirement you allege. Do you have a source?
Exactly. It's like asking your newspaper deliver man to perform open heart surgery on you. Religion...
One of many non biblical problems with Catholicism.
Not much, really, huh?

Why does john mccain talk about the sanctity of marriage when he cheated on his own crippled wife?

I sure would like to know?Why does john mccain talk about the sanctity of marriage when he cheated on his own crippled wife?
Dig deep if you want to. But your gonna have a hard time finding something that sticks to a bona fide hero.Why does john mccain talk about the sanctity of marriage when he cheated on his own crippled wife?
LET THOSE AMONG US WHO IS WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE....


How do you know what his first wife was like?








At least he never made statements like this:





Quote from Barack Obama's book, Dreams Of My Father:


';The person who made me proudest of all, though, was [half brother] Roy .. He converted to Islam.';





From 'Dreams of my Father', ';In Indonesia, I had spent two years at a Muslim school';


';I studied the Koran..';





From 'Audacity of Hope: ';Lolo (Obama's step father) followed a brand of Islam ....';I looked to Lolo for guidance';.





From 'The Audacity Of Hope, ';I will stand with the Muslims should the political winds shift in an ugly direction.';





From The Audacity Of Hope, ';We are no longer just a Christian nation,'; ';We are also a Jewish nation, a Muslim nation, a Buddhist nation, a Hindu nation, and a nation of nonbelievers.';


.





From Dreams of My Father, '; I FOUND A SOLACE IN NURSING A PERVASIVE SENSE OF GRIEVANCE AND ANIMOSITY AGAINST MY MOTHER'S RACE';.





From 'Dreams of my Father', ';The emotion between the races could never be pure..... the other race would always remain just that: menacing, alien, and apart.';





From 'Dreams of My Father',


';I ceased to advertise my mother's race at the age of 12 or 13, when I began to suspect that by doing so I was ingratiating myself to whites';





From Dreams Of My Father, ';never emulate white men and brown men whose fates didn't speak to my own. It was into my father's image, the black man, son of Africa, that I'd packed all the attributes I sought in myself..';.





From Dreams Of My Father:


';That hate hadn't gone away,'; he wrote, blaming ';white people 鈥?some cruel, some ignorant, sometimes a single face, sometimes just a faceless image of a system claiming power over our lives.';





From Dreams Of My Father;


';There were enough of us on campus to constitute a tribe, and when it came to hanging out many of us chose to function like a tribe, staying close together, traveling in packs,'; he wrote. ';It remained necessary to prove which side you were on,to show your loyalty to the black masses, to strike out and name names';





From Dreams Of My Father, ';I had grown accustomed, everywhere, to suspicions between the races.';





McCain is an American hero. He loves this country. Would you rather have him or a man who makes statements such as Obama?
Because like most politicians he is a hypocrite who think nothing of cheating and lying if it fits their purpose.
You say ';let he who is without sin cast the fist stone then you throw a stone at obama.'; Are you retarded?
Why does Obama say he isn't raciest? If he only like one color then he has no respect for this sista.
He's well and truly a hypocrite.
Love this question.





He is an old senile man who will try to ruin this country, I don't know why he wants to become President...
Find me someone in this world who doesn't cheat????? it bears nothing on his ability to govern this country!

Do you feel counselling can help to save the marriage from breaking?

Making a marriage work can be difficult, frustrating, and very challenging...But more and more couples are realising that they need to give special attention to make their marriages work...Everyone employs different techniques -- right from analysing the problem themselves to getting professional help. Do you feel counselling can help to save the marriage from breaking?
I think it can help but ONLY if both parties are willing to go through the process. Even personal therapy is difficult so I can imagine how much worse the beginning stages are when 2 people are involved. Unfortunately in order to get to the core of some issues you have to go through a journey of pain first. I thought I felt like crap when I entered therapy for myself but I had no idea I would feel even worse the first few weeks. I had to confront some demons that I really wanted to squash %26amp; not think about. That's when a lot of people drop out. They think therapy makes them feel worse because they're not seeing the light at the END of the tunnel. Especially for married couples. Men do not like to be challenged. If someone points their finger at them %26amp; says they're wrong they usually bail. They're not willing to sit there %26amp; be told by another man (or especially a woman) that they are at fault. Best of luck. If you both have an open mind it will work. I know my husband would never make it through one session.Do you feel counselling can help to save the marriage from breaking?
I think if 2people really want to save their marriage %26amp; move it forward to a new stage they will have to go through so much to get there as counselling can open up a lot of pain %26amp; issues both people are feeling. It can also bring out resentments, pain but then the healing can begin %26amp; with the help of counselling they can learn to communicate easier so can move forward....It at least shows that both people are willing to give it one last try to make it work...The good thing I would think is that it gives the people a chance to talk without arguing if were left to their own devices to try %26amp; sort out. Hope you are well :)
For some this can work but in all cases both parties have to be willing to participate. I have found in my many years of marriage that having God in my life and my marriage has be a strong building block to success in my life.





You want success in life and in your relationship be it BF/GF or husband and wife. SEEK GOD AND PRAYER.





Trust me miracles do happen it is not a load of BS. If you was to look at most of the long lasting marriages in this world I would succumb to many of them having some kind of religion or belief in God in their life.





Having an all powerful force to handle some of the rough parts of any relationship or just to be there to comfort you and bring you joy and peace is awesome.





Love God, Love your life, Have Faith he can save everything.
It takes two willing parties to make a marriage work, if the two of you want to work out the issues at hand and to all the hard work, then go for it..relationships in general takes time and attention..marriages are so long term..they need maintaince from time to time..
To truly love, this is all that's required. Men have forgotten that women are a mystery to be solved and that to a true lover a woman hides nothing.
In my opinion I feel it all depends on the circumstances. If 2 people can not live happily together then no counseling no matter how good the counselor is will work.
Under these situation counselling will help to save the marriage from breaking?



yes definitely! i myself am a counselor. its not an easy task. but surely it can help the family deal with major issues that otherwise wud remain unresolved.
Yes, It can help if two people are willing to work at it. If both partners gave 100% to the other person, there would be no need for any one to want anything,
If there is a little will ,there is a way.........counselling helps to save the marriage...........
Sometimes it can, sometimes it makes things worse. It really depends on who wants what to work.
only true love can save a marriage.....if love is there then this situation wont arise.....





counselling helps them stay under one roof and pursuing their own life.
Provided both of them go with an open mind and a big Heart.
Yes surely.
I really don't know me myself having problems with my husband
Yes,it is the best.
upcource yes..but there is a condition that d couple should believe


that counceller w'll tell right thing %26amp; we should obey that............ then that w'l work................
depends maybe or may not be


all the best

Is a marriage performed by a crooked priest still recognized by God?

If so would God recognize a marriage performed by an average joe?Is a marriage performed by a crooked priest still recognized by God?
God Almighty is Just God, He does not punish some for others actions.


Every person is responsible for his/her actions not for others.Is a marriage performed by a crooked priest still recognized by God?
Yes. There was an early heresy colled Donatism that held otherwise. It was refuted by the doctrine ';ex opere operato'; (';from the work, the effect';) that proclaimed that the sacrament was effective regardles of the moral state of the minister. (Otherwise it would be a nightmare to sort out which rites were valid when.)





An average joe can ';perform'; a marriage if he is recognized by the state as a reliable witness, which is all the presider actually is. (It's the partners who do the marrying.) A judge, a licensed minister, maybe even a notary public, can witness the signing of a marriage certificate, which is all the state cares about. (A church may require a little more though.)
The Church teaches yes, for as long as all other rules of the church have been observed and met and no other impediments stand in the way. It is not the person that binds together a man and a woman in marriage. Rather it is the office the so-called priest is holding that brings together man and wife. The priest is only God's instrument. The sinfulness of the priest has no bearing on the love between the couples about to be wed, rather God's grace can flow out from a flawed instrument. The first rule to observe is the officiating minister. He must be legally ordained minister of God, so it follows that it cannot just be performed by just any Joe.
Yes, the Priest is only an instrument. Marriage between two Baptized adults with the ability to make full consent, no impediments, and the intention of remaining married is binding for life.
Leave god out of it. Marriage is governed by civil law not the church and therefore if the priest was a fraud then the marriage is not valid and is void!!
Any marriage recognised by the State is recognised by God.
The marriage vows are taken by you and not the one who performs the ceremony....but the question should be whether you would like a crooked person to conduct your marriage
well being married is more of a state contract than it is a religious thing anymore.
ahahaha i guess?
Yes!!!
Yes am a girl

Do you feel counselling can help to save the marriage from breaking?

Making a marriage work can be difficult, frustrating, and very challenging...But more and more couples are realising that they need to give special attention to make their marriages work...Everyone employs different techniques -- right from analysing the problem themselves to getting professional help. Do you feel counselling can help to save the marriage from breaking?
I think it can help but ONLY if both parties are willing to go through the process. Even personal therapy is difficult so I can imagine how much worse the beginning stages are when 2 people are involved. Unfortunately in order to get to the core of some issues you have to go through a journey of pain first. I thought I felt like crap when I entered therapy for myself but I had no idea I would feel even worse the first few weeks. I had to confront some demons that I really wanted to squash %26amp; not think about. That's when a lot of people drop out. They think therapy makes them feel worse because they're not seeing the light at the END of the tunnel. Especially for married couples. Men do not like to be challenged. If someone points their finger at them %26amp; says they're wrong they usually bail. They're not willing to sit there %26amp; be told by another man (or especially a woman) that they are at fault. Best of luck. If you both have an open mind it will work. I know my husband would never make it through one session.Do you feel counselling can help to save the marriage from breaking?
I think if 2people really want to save their marriage %26amp; move it forward to a new stage they will have to go through so much to get there as counselling can open up a lot of pain %26amp; issues both people are feeling. It can also bring out resentments, pain but then the healing can begin %26amp; with the help of counselling they can learn to communicate easier so can move forward....It at least shows that both people are willing to give it one last try to make it work...The good thing I would think is that it gives the people a chance to talk without arguing if were left to their own devices to try %26amp; sort out. Hope you are well :)
For some this can work but in all cases both parties have to be willing to participate. I have found in my many years of marriage that having God in my life and my marriage has be a strong building block to success in my life.





You want success in life and in your relationship be it BF/GF or husband and wife. SEEK GOD AND PRAYER.





Trust me miracles do happen it is not a load of BS. If you was to look at most of the long lasting marriages in this world I would succumb to many of them having some kind of religion or belief in God in their life.





Having an all powerful force to handle some of the rough parts of any relationship or just to be there to comfort you and bring you joy and peace is awesome.





Love God, Love your life, Have Faith he can save everything.
It takes two willing parties to make a marriage work, if the two of you want to work out the issues at hand and to all the hard work, then go for it..relationships in general takes time and attention..marriages are so long term..they need maintaince from time to time..
To truly love, this is all that's required. Men have forgotten that women are a mystery to be solved and that to a true lover a woman hides nothing.
In my opinion I feel it all depends on the circumstances. If 2 people can not live happily together then no counseling no matter how good the counselor is will work.
Under these situation counselling will help to save the marriage from breaking?



yes definitely! i myself am a counselor. its not an easy task. but surely it can help the family deal with major issues that otherwise wud remain unresolved.
Yes, It can help if two people are willing to work at it. If both partners gave 100% to the other person, there would be no need for any one to want anything,
If there is a little will ,there is a way.........counselling helps to save the marriage...........
Sometimes it can, sometimes it makes things worse. It really depends on who wants what to work.
only true love can save a marriage.....if love is there then this situation wont arise.....





counselling helps them stay under one roof and pursuing their own life.
Provided both of them go with an open mind and a big Heart.
Yes surely.
I really don't know me myself having problems with my husband
Yes,it is the best.
upcource yes..but there is a condition that d couple should believe


that counceller w'll tell right thing %26amp; we should obey that............ then that w'l work................
depends maybe or may not be


all the best
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  • Is a marriage performed by a crooked priest still recognized by God?

    If so would God recognize a marriage performed by an average joe?Is a marriage performed by a crooked priest still recognized by God?
    God Almighty is Just God, He does not punish some for others actions.


    Every person is responsible for his/her actions not for others.Is a marriage performed by a crooked priest still recognized by God?
    Yes. There was an early heresy colled Donatism that held otherwise. It was refuted by the doctrine ';ex opere operato'; (';from the work, the effect';) that proclaimed that the sacrament was effective regardles of the moral state of the minister. (Otherwise it would be a nightmare to sort out which rites were valid when.)





    An average joe can ';perform'; a marriage if he is recognized by the state as a reliable witness, which is all the presider actually is. (It's the partners who do the marrying.) A judge, a licensed minister, maybe even a notary public, can witness the signing of a marriage certificate, which is all the state cares about. (A church may require a little more though.)
    The Church teaches yes, for as long as all other rules of the church have been observed and met and no other impediments stand in the way. It is not the person that binds together a man and a woman in marriage. Rather it is the office the so-called priest is holding that brings together man and wife. The priest is only God's instrument. The sinfulness of the priest has no bearing on the love between the couples about to be wed, rather God's grace can flow out from a flawed instrument. The first rule to observe is the officiating minister. He must be legally ordained minister of God, so it follows that it cannot just be performed by just any Joe.
    Yes, the Priest is only an instrument. Marriage between two Baptized adults with the ability to make full consent, no impediments, and the intention of remaining married is binding for life.
    Leave god out of it. Marriage is governed by civil law not the church and therefore if the priest was a fraud then the marriage is not valid and is void!!
    Any marriage recognised by the State is recognised by God.
    The marriage vows are taken by you and not the one who performs the ceremony....but the question should be whether you would like a crooked person to conduct your marriage
    well being married is more of a state contract than it is a religious thing anymore.
    ahahaha i guess?
    Yes!!!
    Yes am a girl

    How important is a sense of humor in your marriage?

    It has been very important for both my man and I.





    Been married to the same man for over 30 years and I actually still like and desire the guy....even after all this time. He says he feels the same way about me.How important is a sense of humor in your marriage?
    Being able to laugh together is wonderful so I would say a sense of humour is VERY important in a marriage. A man who can make a woman laugh is a very attractive thing!How important is a sense of humor in your marriage?
    It is critical. I am very envious. I have lost my sense of fun and happiness in my relationship and we haven't been together for a year. Our differences are driving me away from my partner. You are very blessed to have found someone with whom you are a good match.
    I envy that, when i get to that stage i hope that happens to me :)


    hahaha, but i love being surrounded in laughter and im a really giggly person so if my man can't make me laugh and isnt funny then he aint gonna be my man for long..hahaha
    Its very important, I say GOD gave us two very important tools to deal with the stress of life, crying and laughter. The more you can laugh together, the more the stresses of life fade away.
    I agree. My husband and I am happily married, and we will be married for 10 years this September. We laugh often, at the kids, jokes, comedy specials, at each other..etc.. LOL Laughter really is the spice of life! :)
    Since we are both each others 4 spouse we know how to laugh. We come up with things to laugh at all the time. It is important to be positive over everything and laugh at the little and dumb things.
    you have to have a sense of humor cuz if you dont the marriage is dead... you 2 will never have a good time..
    She is a complete and total joke. If I didn't laugh...I'd cry.
    You need one that is for sure!

    How is Marriage an institution between a man, wife, and God if you have to go through the government?

    To obtain a marriage license?How is Marriage an institution between a man, wife, and God if you have to go through the government?
    A marriage is between two people who make their promise of fidelity with whomever they feel is important as a witness. This may include God, their family and the government.How is Marriage an institution between a man, wife, and God if you have to go through the government?
    In Catholicism, a person can go through a civil marriage ceremony before a judge or justice of the peace -- but in the eyes of the Church, that is not a marriage.





    It's only ';between a man, woman, and God'; when it's done in the Church.





    There are people who would be eligible to be married according to secular law, but not Church law.





    Those people, specifically, would be those who were married in the Church, obtained a civil divorce, but were not granted an annulment by the Church.





    So, to answer your question -- strictly speaking, a Catholic couple who are validly married by a priest, even without a government-issued marriage license, would still be seen as married by God and by the Church.





    A marriage license is only for civil-law purposes.


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    The word -marriage- means two different things, completely different and completely separate.





    The religious meaning of marriage is a man and a woman being joined in the eyes of God. Churches can decide who they will marry and who not, it's up to them. This kind of marriage has no legal requirements, doesn't require a license, and has no status under the law.





    The civil meaning of marriage is an economic partnership between two people. It allows them to pay each other's bills, visit in the hospital, make choices when they other is incapacitated, inherit without probate, etc. etc. These are all items having to do with law, just like a business partnership. So you need a formal legal document to show that the relationship exists.





    And this kind of marriage, being a right of citizens, is available to -all- citizens, because all citizens have all the same rights, equal protection under the law.
    Marriage laws began to evolve during the Middle Ages. The Council of Westminster decreed in 1076 that no man should give his daughter or female relative to anyone without priestly blessing. Later councils would decree that marriage should not be secret but held in the open. But it wasn't until the 16th century Council of Trent that decreed a priest was required to perform the betrothal ceremony. Separation of couples was tolerated, but there was no legal divorce, though marriages between those too closely related could be annulled.





    Wedding customs meant agreements or contracts were drawn up describing the rights of both the bride and groom. Medieval marriage ceremonies and celebrations depended largely on the social class of the bride and groom. Inheritance and property were usually two reasons why arranged marriages were contracted.





    NOTE: There is a LOT more information on this website I found (below)
    Its not.





    You can get a religious ceremony in a church and the church has the right to require whatever they want for you to do it there, but you can legally be married without a church. Theres religious marriage and legal marriage. Big difference. No one cares if a church doesn't allow gay marriage, its the government that has no place restricting it in the legal sense
    How is a marriage an institution between a man and a women if you have to go through Christian believers who think they should control everything?





    Anyways, licenses are for legal marriage rights. You're free to get married at a bar with a bouncer as the priest for all that it matters.
    In obedience to God, we must obey the laws of the land in which we live, UNLESS they oppose any instruction given us by the Lord. The laws of the land determine that on the day you make your vows before God and man, the government will not acknowledge your marriage on that day, unless they have certified proof of it. The government sanction does not harm the marriage, but actually empowers it further by recognizing it, which provides security to both husband and wife (in regards to their accumulated marital assets) as well as for the children they bear, and blesses it with lawful tax breaks, child credits as well as of course end of life benefits to the widow/widower and their children up to age 18, or in college until age 21. It in no way removes anything from a Biblical marriage.
    originally marriage was just a civil contract between a man and whoever the father of his proposed bride was. it was all about title and financial security.





    just because the church has adopted the custom doesn't mean that they make the rules. even if you did get married in a church you still have to go the court house for the license, otherwise it doesn't mean anything
    @Zero: Best argument I've heard in a long while. I guess at that point we're arguing with semantics over the word ';marriage.'; A civil union that carries with it the exact same legal and financial benefits that marriage does, as well as any other benefits associated, would be acceptable I presume. People will be calling it marriage regardless, so, why not.
    not a religious marriage. for instance, my parents were'nt married through the gov't, they were married according to the laws of Islam and the Gov't has to recognize this ahem ';freedom of religion'; so it is not fair of our society, our government and our courts to establish public policy that encourages this social engineering and pretends that homosexual ';families'; are normal, healthy and desirable. Instead, public policy should work toward discouraging the harmful effects of divorce and single parenting that results in motherless and fatherless homes - not promoting it!





    and they can't force us to recognize that which our religion forbids as something different.
    We only have to go through the gov because we apply for marriage license. It was only enforce because of interracial marriages and then the gov saw that this was a good ideas then they started to let everyone apply. But really they don't have the say over who you marry they just want to be in control over everything that we do. God bless marriages between man and a woman from the beginning of time.





    Look at the site www.redemption.com. It will open your eyes to a lot of things that was never taught in school . The knowledge on this site is out ot this world.
    It never has been about religion it has always been about people who care about each other .


    Whenever religion becomes involved it turns to sh*t .





    @ SuzAnna that was Christians and the European laws . Go back further in history to ancient Greece and see what they had then including gay marriage .





    @ Jennifer do you always read your babble with your eyes half closed ?
    There wont be any mention of God or Jesus at my wedding, but I'm still free to marry.





    Why should Christians get to define non-Christian marriage?





    They tried the exact same thing with interracial marriage in the 1950s.


    Same arguments and everything. It was a sin, not gods will, etc..
    Just another money making scheme. The Goverment only cares about making money. If you get divorced and remarried they make more money
    Marriage is a sacrament intuited by God.
    Why should 2 atheists be able to marry under this definition of marriage?




















    ?
    Marriage is not religious.
    Historically, Christianity frowned on marriage.
    well its just another way for the government to make money. thats all they care about. they couldnt care less how or who u r marrying.
    How DO you get married in God's eyes anyway?





    I've never understood it..
    u dont have to unless you want tax breaks
    The reason a Christian should get a license is because we are to follow the law of the land so long as the law does not conflict with the teachings of Christ.

    When do guys start thinking about the idea of marriage?

    At what age or whatever do guys start thinking about marriage and finding the right girl? ...disregarding being ready for marriage in a certain relationship, blah, blah...like when does a guy stop dating for fun, but long-term?When do guys start thinking about the idea of marriage?
    i think it's when guys are in their mid to late twenties when they start seriously thinking about it before then it's kind of like a lite idea.





    i think most guys stop dating for fun after they get out of college, but, most married couples meet in college so they must already be in long term relationships when they get out of college.When do guys start thinking about the idea of marriage?
    It depends on the guys upbringing and the types of relationships he's been in and the goals he has in life. Everyone is different.


    You can't expect an accurate answer for this type of question.
    When they get tired of wearing dirty socks and eating pizza all the time!!:)

    What is the name of the show about LOTS of kids but mom had two from previous marriage?

    What was the name of that tv show? I thought it was the Duggars' 18 and Counting but she doesn't have any children from a previous marriage. The one I am thinking of is the same type thing but with two children from before the mom and dad met.What is the name of the show about LOTS of kids but mom had two from previous marriage?
    brady bunch ,What is the name of the show about LOTS of kids but mom had two from previous marriage?
    Oh boy - I remember seeing a lot of those shows too, I'm wondering if the one you're talking about had the mom with the oldest daughter named Jemima? That's the only one that comes to mind at the moment. I don't remember the family name, but the show may have been Kids By the Dozen, where they highlight different families each time, not just one.

    Is is okay to touch my girlfriends breast before marriage?

    My girlfriend wants me to touch her breast. I dont know why but she gets upset when i say no cuz we're christians and we're not married yet.


    So issit a sin to do so before marriage?Is is okay to touch my girlfriends breast before marriage?
    of course it aint a sin, youre just touchin' nothin' else.Is is okay to touch my girlfriends breast before marriage?
    WTF????? breast have nothing to do with virginity or becoming of one flesh.








    so touch, grab and kiss all u and all she wants





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    I dont think its a sin.......because i think the bible says we should not fornicate (having sexual intercourse with someone who you are not married to)......the two of you should work it out and you guys should respect each other decision.....
    It's not a sin it will be okay. And if you still feel bad about it just ask for forgiveness.
    It isnt a sin to touch, only if there is masturbation or sexual contact under there...
    Nothing in the Bible about heavy petting. Just don't it too far and ejaculate or your going to Hell!!!!!
    no it's not a sin


    touch the boobie
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  • Why are threesomes viewed as being harmful to a marriage if the wife AND husband want to enjoy another woman?

    Isn't it serving the same purpose (spicing things up, change %26amp; variety) as toys, props and role playing?Why are threesomes viewed as being harmful to a marriage if the wife AND husband want to enjoy another woman?
    Because in general most people cannot deal with the 3rd person in the marriage. Husband may wonder if wife will ';turn'; gay and run off with woman and woman may wonder if husband will leave her for the other gal


    etc





    all comes down to most people don't have the emotional maturity to deal with such an advanced and complex social equation as introducing a 3rd member to what people are taught should be a monogamous relationship





    but if it works for you then fine by me and if it doesn't then fine by meWhy are threesomes viewed as being harmful to a marriage if the wife AND husband want to enjoy another woman?
    It depends on the couple. Some people see it as a threat to their marriage and thus should NOT participate in threesomes, etc. Others are more free in their sexuality and can separate love from sex and are able to enjoy such pleasures responsibly and maturely.





    Being of the latter, I say it's a wonderful way to explore your sexuality if the couple in question is up to the challenge. It takes a strong and secure couple who can communicate openly and honestly and have 100% trust in each other to be able to pull it off. Plus they have to be into the kink lol.
    They are viewed as harmful because they go against the prejudices taught in modern religion and societal norms about marriage. When it comes down to it only you and your partner can decide if it is harmful. If you trust each other and are firmly committed to one another then it should be fine.
    Well... I don't know your views on the sanctity of marriage. And trust me, I am not judging!!! I answer with experience. It might not harm your relationship and it probably WILL spice things up if you are both for it. But as far as being ';VIEWED'; it's because it is a marriage... a commitment for the rest of your life to each other and no other. Once again, I'm not judging just answering why its ';viewed'; to be harmful
    It's viewed as harmful because most married couples value the fact that you belong only to one another. Once that line is breached, there is a lack of trust and the relationship suffers and often fails.





    they are viewed as harmful because most coules die on the vine
    its really just a matter of 'be careful what you wish for because you may get it';.. it may sound all fine and dandy and some people handle it just fine but all it takes is one lingering glance to bring jealousies ugly head around. once you've thrown mistrust in your relationship or doubt its almost impossible to fix and it only is successful with a small percentage of relationships..
    I honestly think the response from Tiffany is a good one.





    For us males it is great with threesomes. Two beautiful ladies... (I am in heaven)...





    And most likely it is a male behind these requests.





    So if the male can accept threesomes with two males and one lady it is nothing to say about two ladies and one male... But otherwise... ok. for us males it is great... - We will definitely win most on it!
    You are adding another person into the equation, with their feelings, actions, reactions and emotions. Last time I checked, toys and props didn't have feelings. Triangles have three sides!
    You do what ever the heck you want to do in your bedroom.


    What ever blows your hair back.


    In case you are looking for traders, not interested.
    Why does it have to be with another woman? I'd only have a threesome with another man, but not with another woman.
    Because so many of the conservative, closeminded women (especially) on Y!A can't imagine doing anything like it, so it must be evil.
    Generally one person becomes attached to the 3rd party and that's when the trouble begins...





    I think you should do whatever floats your boat...
    It's not harmful. That is the best arrangement in any marriage.
    if it's something you both want and feel that your relationship will be fine afterward, then there is no problem=enjoy!
    To each his /her own... if you as a couple are in agreement, then go for it and I hope it is as hot as it sounds.
    Go have one and let me know how it turns out.
    because its a) cheating b) being unfaithful to your vows c) if the female was gay she should never have gotten married d) if the man wanted to cheat he should have never gotten married e) its unsafe f) can get a STD g) it makes sex with each other seem less desireable h) its the highway to divorce i) your children (if any) dont need sl*ts for parents. j) word eventually gets around k) you get the well i cheated with you so i can cheat with out you l) where is the love between you two k) shall i go on???? i prob can make it thru the alphabet. if u want to chea go get divorced .

    My pregnant wife and i are having a major argument that is threatening to ruin the marriage, so who's right?

    My wife thinks a postage stamp should go on the envelope before you seal the envelope, and i think it should go on after you seal the envelope. Who's right?My pregnant wife and i are having a major argument that is threatening to ruin the marriage, so who's right?
    You are both wrong. Use email.My pregnant wife and i are having a major argument that is threatening to ruin the marriage, so who's right?
    I think each of you can decide for yourself and only for yourself when the postage stamp goes on the envelope. Were you to not think this a good solution, then I think you may want to consider divorcing her so you can pay child (after the child is born) and spousal support and she and you can put the stamp on any envelope whenever you want and not argue about it any more. This is a drastic solution but will get you the satisfaction of allowing yourself to put the stamp on an envelope whenever you want as long as it is in the upper right hand corner of the envelope. The best solution is to allow whomever is putting the stamp on the envelope to put it on whenever one wants to put it. This is called negotiation and reaching a compromise. It works, and I suggest you compromise with her on this and not make a big deal out of it. Were this to be a threat and create the possibility that your marriage may be ruined because of it, I tend to think that there may be other problems with your marriage that are more important than this problem and those problems need to be looked at in greater detail, as there doesn't need to be a major argument over such a petty thing as when does a postage stamp go on an envelope. Get real, and get your marriage back on track.
    What a significant waste of stamps if you put them on and then mess up sealing the envelope.





    With the new self adhesive stamps you cannot get them back off and reuse them like the old ones.





    I do not think that I could remain married to a person who is so wastefully intractable about this issue.





    Perhaps it is time to leave before the baby comes and you get to bond.





    It will make it easier that way.
    Really, a stamp is threatening to ruin the marriage! Maker her happy on this one, you've got diaper changing and 3am feedings to worry about!
    There's no right or wrong in this situation. It doesn't matter when you put the stamp on it as long as it's on there before you put it in the mailbox.
    it does not matter ? ! - and if you really feel that something so not important can ruin your marriage


    you are both looking for an easy way out
    You are. But she will never be convinced of it. Pregnant woman are a nightmare.
    You are. Everyone knows it should go on after it is sealed.
    Just concede to her.

    I am Catholic but was married outside the church. Can I still receive the sacrament of marriage?

    My husband is protestant and we intend to remain married. I regret now that I wasn't married in the church/tradition I grew up in and was wondering if it's still possible to receive the sacrament of marriage?I am Catholic but was married outside the church. Can I still receive the sacrament of marriage?
    Yes, all you have to do is have your marriage convalidated, then you can receive all the other sacraments. Some people call it having your marraige blessed but that is inaccurate. Your marraige is already blessed. Your husband does not have to convert, but he will have to agree to raise the children Catholic. There are too many reasons to fully explain all the teaching behind the practice in just a few paragraphs, but that answers your question in a nut shell.





    here are some resosurces for you:


    Bringing Your Marriage Into the Church


    http://www.americancatholic.org/newslett鈥?/a>





    How to have a marriage convalidated or acknowledged in the Catholic Church


    http://www.ehow.com/how_4615814_marriage鈥?/a>





    It would be a good idea to attend Mass when you can, and make an appointment to talk to the priest.





    Welcome home:)I am Catholic but was married outside the church. Can I still receive the sacrament of marriage?
    The cure for this situation is to just be married. The first marriage according to Catholic Doctrine is doubtfully valid, many versions of the ceremony exist and you might not be able to get a copy of the words used in it.





    If the Protestant party intends to not convert, then the ceremony is not held in the church, but in the sacristy to the side, if there is one.





    Of course, the Conciliarists have rewritten the Canon Laws in 1983, twenty years after they had already been changing the sacramental matter and form, so perhaps they also changed what Trent says on lawful matrimonial ceremonies.
    I was married in a catholic church, my hubby has no religion(he believes he just doesnt have a religion). I had to go to a class and then I could get married in the church..talk to the Father at your church...you may just have to get re-married. Your hubby doesn't have to convert...but if he loves you he should get married in a church so that you will feel better about yourself. Maybe you can just have a simple small ceremony to pacify the church.
    I'm not positive, but I think he needs to be Catholic, too, in order for it to be considered a sacrament in the Church. Don't hold me to this, because I'm not sure...


    I think the Catechism of the Catholic Church is online somewhere, I would definitely go check that out and see what it says.


    Best of luck!
    The Church probably already recognizes your marriage. It can and will bless the marriage bond that already exists.





    This is called a Convalidation of Marriage. Here is an article about the steps involved: http://www.americancatholic.org/Newslett鈥?/a>





    Talk to your parish priest to get the process started.





    For more information, see the Code of Canon Law, paragraphs 1156 and following: http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__鈥?/a>





    With love and prayers in Christ.
    They will probably require you to take marriage encounter/counseling classes first. It was required last I heard of any couple marrying in the Church. Best bet though is checking with your local parish. They might wave that part if you have been together for awhile.
    Yes you can still be married in the Church, since the Church does not see you as married currently. A Catholic can marry a non-Catholic in the Catholic Church. It happens all the time.
    Sure it is, possible. As long as you have no impediments to marriage, you can have your marriage blessed and recognized by the Church. Pax Christi
    Yes of course you can.All you must do is have you and your Husband meet with the Priest and make arrangements to have your marriage blessed and confirmed in the Catholic Church.
    Just go talk to the priest have your marriage blessed then you can receive the sacraments.Yes you can get married again in the church.
    So you're asking if believing in one false myth lets you join in an imaginary cerimony with someone believing in another false myth? mmmm...let's see now...ok...here's my answer....who cares?
    So why are you now in such a tizzy? You kinda answered your own question, which shows how much of a cult the Catholicism really is! You are suppose to have a ';relationship'; with Jesus, not a traditional dog and pony show! Get over it, and love your hubby, and Jesus, I did the same thing, the ONLY reason was to get my folks off my back, just made a mess of our relationship, wasn't worth it at all!.Brought no glory to The Lord, just my folks to save face in the church.

    Since the churches have lost the battle vs. gay marriage, should they move on to divorce and adultery?

    It's clear, with the newest decision in Iowa, that gay marriage is inevitably coming to America. My question is, should the churches now pull their resources to introduce laws banning divorce and adultery? It seems to me that we need to protect marriage.Since the churches have lost the battle vs. gay marriage, should they move on to divorce and adultery?
    It's always been my view that Christians need to work FOR things more than they need to work AGAINST them. Should be begin working for things Jesus told us to do, like feed his sheep, preach the Good News, love one another?Since the churches have lost the battle vs. gay marriage, should they move on to divorce and adultery?
    Screw it, people should be able to live their lives how they want. Some marriages just don't work, and a woman or man should have every right to leave his marriage for everyone's sake. Some women also marry abusive men because of underlying psychological issues, but they should be given the opportunity to walk away from that lifestyle whenever they wish.





    The problem with divorce is that people don't think first before they marry. One girl at my high school is dropping out after junior year to marry a guy she'd met a couple months ago.
    The Christian church has not lost any battle. Any Christian who believes the bible should be interpreted literally and believes the word of the Lord, will never lose the battle. We as Christians are to live in the world but not of the world. Even if every state were to adopt gay marriage, it doesn't mean that we any more accept it as moral living. It is those who buy into the homosexual agenda that is on the losing battle. If a person chooses to live in sin and is unrepentant, they don't gain anything but an eternity in hell. They sadly are the losers.
    You seem to be pretty far behind the times.





    Laws against divorce and adultery were struck down long before you were born.





    They were found to be unconstitutional long ago, so the chances that they will be reinstated are slim and none.





    And rightfully so, I might add.
    Those involved in the gay agenda would love to make everyone think that only Christians are against gay marriage, when in truth it is most Americans. The issue of gay marriage is far from lost. Banning divorce would be unbiblical and Adultery is already a sin
    Giving up and saying ';sin'; is ok, just because the law says it's alright is not right in my eyes. God sets the moral standard in my family. Not the law. That includes our concern for divorce and adultery.
    That battle was lost around 30 years ago...





    Perhaps you should keep your marriage in accordance with your beliefs, and keep your beliefs out of the legal system.
    Never give up on the gay issue. Love the sinner not the sin.
    I don't know what you are talking about? The Church I attend has never attacked gays or divorced folks. The point is people need Jesus Christ in their lives.
    It isn't lost yet, partner.

    Is it mandatory to wear only gold jwellery in marriage reception?For fancy look cant one try artificial jwlry?

    I want to mix and match my jwellery to make the look come out of conventional look.Can I wear gold plated silver or artificial jwellery on my reception day?Is it mandatory to wear only gold jwellery in marriage reception?For fancy look cant one try artificial jwlry?
    Not at all.....


    Not only gold but you can also try:


    diamond, precious stones, platinum, silver and if you are not comfortable go for ethnic artificial jewelery...All d best!Is it mandatory to wear only gold jwellery in marriage reception?For fancy look cant one try artificial jwlry?
    ofcourse you can try artificial jewelry.





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    ya ya u can wear reception isnot more important it is just show off thats it the main think that should be gold is MANGALYAM ok u can opt for any its your wish just choose a goog one which matches u r reception costume
    Yes you can not all ';real'; jewellry looks good


    But if you find the perfect artificial jewellry and it doesn't look to cheap or cheesy nothing wrong with wearing it
    none is preventing you. it is for you mto decide
    Gold shows ur richness
    no its not at all compulsory

    If you have traffic warrants, will you go to jail when you go to apply for a marriage license?

    No criminal background checks are run on either party when applying for a marriage license. AS long as a payment arrangement has been worked out between the court %26amp; the person with the tickets, there won't be any problems with the cops on your wedding day unless you get pulled over afterwards.If you have traffic warrants, will you go to jail when you go to apply for a marriage license?
    Dang now your going to be double nervous about getting married aren't you.





    Seriously now........you better come up with the cash to get out of this problem now. But then again, are you talking about something that was illegal and can put you in jail or just traffic tickets you haven't paid?If you have traffic warrants, will you go to jail when you go to apply for a marriage license?
    how can you possibly enter the committment of marriage when your personal life is so irresponsible and reckless?? pay your fines -clear your legal obligations- and start fresh.
    I don't think the two have anything to do with each other. They don't pull your criminal record, when you apply for a marriage license...But it could depend on the state.
    nope, no related at all.
    isnt getting married like going to jail????? whats the difference LOL
    You might.
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  • I am Catholic but was married outside the church. Can I still receive the sacrament of marriage?

    My husband is protestant and we intend to remain married. I regret now that I wasn't married in the church/tradition I grew up in and was wondering if it's still possible to receive the sacrament of marriage?I am Catholic but was married outside the church. Can I still receive the sacrament of marriage?
    Yes, all you have to do is have your marriage convalidated, then you can receive all the other sacraments. Some people call it having your marraige blessed but that is inaccurate. Your marraige is already blessed. Your husband does not have to convert, but he will have to agree to raise the children Catholic. There are too many reasons to fully explain all the teaching behind the practice in just a few paragraphs, but that answers your question in a nut shell.





    here are some resosurces for you:


    Bringing Your Marriage Into the Church


    http://www.americancatholic.org/newslett鈥?/a>





    How to have a marriage convalidated or acknowledged in the Catholic Church


    http://www.ehow.com/how_4615814_marriage鈥?/a>





    It would be a good idea to attend Mass when you can, and make an appointment to talk to the priest.





    Welcome home:)I am Catholic but was married outside the church. Can I still receive the sacrament of marriage?
    The cure for this situation is to just be married. The first marriage according to Catholic Doctrine is doubtfully valid, many versions of the ceremony exist and you might not be able to get a copy of the words used in it.





    If the Protestant party intends to not convert, then the ceremony is not held in the church, but in the sacristy to the side, if there is one.





    Of course, the Conciliarists have rewritten the Canon Laws in 1983, twenty years after they had already been changing the sacramental matter and form, so perhaps they also changed what Trent says on lawful matrimonial ceremonies.
    I was married in a catholic church, my hubby has no religion(he believes he just doesnt have a religion). I had to go to a class and then I could get married in the church..talk to the Father at your church...you may just have to get re-married. Your hubby doesn't have to convert...but if he loves you he should get married in a church so that you will feel better about yourself. Maybe you can just have a simple small ceremony to pacify the church.
    I'm not positive, but I think he needs to be Catholic, too, in order for it to be considered a sacrament in the Church. Don't hold me to this, because I'm not sure...


    I think the Catechism of the Catholic Church is online somewhere, I would definitely go check that out and see what it says.


    Best of luck!
    The Church probably already recognizes your marriage. It can and will bless the marriage bond that already exists.





    This is called a Convalidation of Marriage. Here is an article about the steps involved: http://www.americancatholic.org/Newslett鈥?/a>





    Talk to your parish priest to get the process started.





    For more information, see the Code of Canon Law, paragraphs 1156 and following: http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__鈥?/a>





    With love and prayers in Christ.
    They will probably require you to take marriage encounter/counseling classes first. It was required last I heard of any couple marrying in the Church. Best bet though is checking with your local parish. They might wave that part if you have been together for awhile.
    Yes you can still be married in the Church, since the Church does not see you as married currently. A Catholic can marry a non-Catholic in the Catholic Church. It happens all the time.
    Sure it is, possible. As long as you have no impediments to marriage, you can have your marriage blessed and recognized by the Church. Pax Christi
    Yes of course you can.All you must do is have you and your Husband meet with the Priest and make arrangements to have your marriage blessed and confirmed in the Catholic Church.
    Just go talk to the priest have your marriage blessed then you can receive the sacraments.Yes you can get married again in the church.
    So you're asking if believing in one false myth lets you join in an imaginary cerimony with someone believing in another false myth? mmmm...let's see now...ok...here's my answer....who cares?
    So why are you now in such a tizzy? You kinda answered your own question, which shows how much of a cult the Catholicism really is! You are suppose to have a ';relationship'; with Jesus, not a traditional dog and pony show! Get over it, and love your hubby, and Jesus, I did the same thing, the ONLY reason was to get my folks off my back, just made a mess of our relationship, wasn't worth it at all!.Brought no glory to The Lord, just my folks to save face in the church.

    Why do so many cute and successful people use the internet to find a date or for marriage?

    This is really a striking social phenomenon throughout the world.





    Why can't they meet the right matches in reality?Why do so many cute and successful people use the internet to find a date or for marriage?
    When you enter a dating site, everyone in there is looking for someone. When you're out on the streets you can't tell. No one has signs that say ';I'm Single and Looking';. It's more nerve wracking to do so in person. Online, some of your fears and worries go away.Why do so many cute and successful people use the internet to find a date or for marriage?
    Time constraints.





    Economical - It's cheaper than going out to clubs or traveling to far away places or resorts.





    Geographically unlimited. The person who's everything you're looking for might be in Houston. If you're in Tulsa you'd never have the opportunity to meet them, much less get to know them in a relatively safe environment.





    Highly successful and/or famous individuals looking for a real person can shield their identity until they find out if the person is interested in them as a person. (Yes, it happens)
    Unfortunately being cute and/or successful does not mean you have social skills and/or the self confidence to approach someone in real life.





    The internet is a great place because you can take a risk without ever really investing anything. I might IM you ';hey wanna go get a beer?'; where in real life I might never have the courage to ask. It makes it easier for people who don't really know each other well to move past the whole fencing match of ';who should make a move, does he like me? should I ask?'; because there really isn't anything invested - if the person says no, what do you care? It's text on a screen, not a real flesh and blood person.
    Because it's become taboo in person at least in my social circles. If I go to church and ask a girl out, people think it's taboo. If I go to a restaurant and ask a waitress out, I feel like I'm taking advantage of her because she's just doing her job. I don't go to bars or clubs or even drink alcohol. Yet if I see a girl on a dating site that I like.. well she's obviously single and wants to date.. so what's the harm in asking her out?
    it all comes down to wanting to go up to someone and talk to them. Alot of guys cant do that and women dont want to be the ones to initiate anything so nothing ever happens to them.
    o reli? I am a blond man looking for a mate that is younger, religious, and has a good personality. Just joking. I never knew that to be honest
    Having good looks doesn't always mean the person will be a social person. The person may not even know they look cute!

    Do men cheat more these days because feminists and gays have destroyed the sacred institution of marriage?

    Due to the feminazis and sexual minorities propaganda, marriage has become a joke these days. Even otherwise the most honest and honorable men (Sanford, Clinton, Gingrich, etc) stray because of this. Some 30 years ago we never heard of these scandals. Your comments please...Do men cheat more these days because feminists and gays have destroyed the sacred institution of marriage?
    That is ridiculous. Look at all the governors who cheat on their wives. They're certainly not gay. And their wives are not feminists. Look at the message they're sending. They take no responsibility for their actions, and you want to blame gays/feminists? Someone's in denial.Do men cheat more these days because feminists and gays have destroyed the sacred institution of marriage?
    You never heard of these scandals 30 + years ago, because the Office of President was being treated as sacred, and you didn't do anything to tarnish that man's job. But, allot of prior Presidents had affairs while they were in office. FDR, the man who bought the country out of the Great Depression and WWII, and was in a wheel chair, had a mistress and had affairs with her in the White House, at his home in Hyde Park,NY, and in Warm Springs, GA, where he died. Eisenhower also had an affair.
    If it is indeed true that more people are being unfaithful these days, I imagine it is because of a general loosening of moral standards. Whether this can be attributed directly to feminism or homosexuality I could not say. I would think it is at least partly because people were more discreet about their infidelities in the past, because they were concerned about the possible harmful effects of scandal. Nowadays nobody cares.
    Ronnie. Great question. But the sanctity of marriage is being


    destroyed by our own personal quest for more. Greed, selfishness,


    idolatry, lust, envy, and more. It is the dehumanization of our


    civilization itself. We are our own worst enemy.
    No, Tracey. He isn't referring to now. -_-


    He's talking about how it USED to be.





    And I, also, find a part of truth in his question.
    You mean the ';sacred'; institution of marriage that results in a divorce 50 percent of the time? That ';sacred'; institution?
    Marriage is a failure because straights made it a failure





    How can you blame gay people for that??





    lmao





    Suffer in silence baby





    Fail
    No, more men cheat because they don't get put to death for doing it like they used to.
    Sadly, there is probably some truth to your post.

    How does marriage affect insurance with pregnancy?

    Ok, so we recently found out that my fiancee is pregnant. We are getting married in two months now. She is currently on her mother's insurance, which DOES cover pregnancy. When we get married and purchase our own insurance policy, will there be hardly any hassle having the new insurance cover her? I know that through HIPAA that pregnancy cannot be claimed as a pre-existing condition as long as the person has insurance that currently covers the pregnancy. I'm just afraid there will be some fine print clause that the insurance co. will try to pull. Anyone have information/life story to help me out?How does marriage affect insurance with pregnancy?
    Because you and your fiance are currently pregnant, you and her will not be able to obtain a new ';individual/family'; policy.





    However, if your fiance is currently a dependent under her mothers policy she will be able to contiune these benefits through COBRA (as long as the employer has over 20 employees). The reason for this is the clause that talks about transitioning from a dependent status to non-dependent status. Once she is your wife, she is no longer your mothers dependent - this qualifys her to continue her benefits for up to 36 months - plenty of time to deliver the baby.





    Once the baby is delivered - you, your wife and child will need to get a policy.





    http://www.dol.gov/ebsa/faqs/faq_consume鈥?/a>How does marriage affect insurance with pregnancy?
    do neither of you have a job that offers pregnancy coverage? the problems could be that her current doctor may not be covered under a new insurance plan. if you go with an independent insurance agency the monthly premiums will be much more expensive than what it is now thru an employer.
    Well, YES. Unless you're adding her to your policy through work, you're going to have a really, really, really hard time finding an insurance company willing to cover the pregnancy.





    When you go for an individual policy, they get to underwrite you BRAND NEW. The HIPAA is really for when you move from one employer's plan to the next - if you're going for an individual policy, they don't HAVE to take you - and they WILL decline for a preexisting pregnancy.
    i think no one offers pregnancy coverage
    hi check this link its good














    http://insuranceadviceforyou.blogspot.com/














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    Why are people making such a big deal out of the Miss America's controversial gay marriage response?

    Who actually listens to what those chicks say anyways? She lost because the North Carolina girl had bigger hooters and smaller thighs. Lets be realistic here. Nobody listens to what hot girls have to say, agree?Why are people making such a big deal out of the Miss America's controversial gay marriage response?
    I don't even know who Miss America is, let alone what she's said.





    But I do think it's hilarious now that people like Megan McCain and Mcain's ex campaign manager are running around saying that the Republican party should embrace gay marriages.





    So after they've embraced teen-age motherhood thanks to Bristol Palin, now gay marriages are okay?





    Be still my foolish heart.





    Whatever platform will the Republicans run on now?





    After all, it were they who said that Democrats had no ';family values'; due to these very same things.





    (LOL)!!!!!Why are people making such a big deal out of the Miss America's controversial gay marriage response?
    I'm not big on Perez Hilton, but he made a very valid point on his after-action blog (as shown later on FOX, among other channels): he said ';Miss California could have said 'it's up to each State to decide on gay marriage' and Hilton is exactly correct. Miss California just wasn't smart enough, sharp enough or quick enough to realize that gay marriage is a state's-rights issue. It wouldn't surprise me, though, if conservatives miss that point.





    Overall, though, the whole Miss USA thing is a non-issue to most people


    ..
    That Mr. Perez is awful calling Miss America all kinds of names, I saw him. Then I saw Miss America's answer to his question, and it was very politically correct on how everyone has a choice to believe in gay marriage or not. The end she said she and her family believe marriage is between a man and a woman, like Obama and most all people. They need to fire Mr. Perez for sure.
    B/c, from the part I heard, she spoke out against gay marriage. Any time anyone speaks out against those folks it's a problem. I actually agreed with the part I heard.





    As far as who cares what she said, i couldn't care less. She makes no policy, she only spoke her mind which she is guaranteed the right to do under the Constitution.
    Well, they claim she lost because of her bigotry. However, I think part of it was the speech she said. She stated, ';in my country...';





    Does she not know that in HER country gay marriage is already legal in some states! Her speech was terrible and that part of it made her sound like the bimbo she is!
    My mom actually told me about this controversy, I had no idea what this was before. I think people care because they are close minded. They are all hypocrites and think it is wrong to go against gay marriage, though saying gay marriage is right is the freedom of speech but to them going against it is not a freedom of speech...if that makes any sense. In shorter terms, people are stupid.
    Some people love controversy. Some love causing it and some love reacting to it. Controversy is entertaining. It sells and makes for dramatic tv, news, movies and books. It allows us to take the focus off ourselves. It also gives people a chance to think, debate and make peace with themselves and others.
    The gay-rights hate mongers are the only ones making a big deal of the remarks, and they are doing so because they do not believe in Freedom of Speech, nor do they believe in Freedom of Religion.





    The gay rights groups are the true hate mongers.
    What is sad is that what is NORMAL is considered controversial. H*mos have to inject their degeneracy into everything.








    Of course the question came from one of the sexually confused ';queens';
    Typical sexist liberalism.
    I like hot girls with a good head on her shoulders, Mr. California was awesome.
    Because it was Perezzer's question. He's been blogging about it all day.
    She's entitled to her opinion, but yeah , who cares really.
    people today are so sensitive about everything from soup to NUTS
    NO i do not agree and you are misogynist
    It's miss USA, but when was it on. I usually just watch bones and Simpsons.
    Are they? I don't think 99.9% of the population cares.

    If a marriage license is unsigned by witnesses, is it still valid?

    The marriage license is from Hillsborough County, FL, and is from 2006. Everything else is filled out, it's just the witness spots that are blank.If a marriage license is unsigned by witnesses, is it still valid?
    No and Not only that, it actually needs to be filed within a certain number of days to be valid.If a marriage license is unsigned by witnesses, is it still valid?
    It could be a copy of a marriage license. Sometimes the copies differ from the actual license.
    Check with the county clerk to be sure, but those ';witness spots'; are there for a reason and are legally required.





    I'm also fairly certain there's a time period within which the license must be executed (like 180 days, maybe).
    No. It's a legal document and must be filled out completely. Especially that part.
    Nope!! Now's your chance- RUN!!!
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  • My friend wants to get married. What is court marriage procedure? Also what is safe way to hide from parents?

    Actually my friend wants to get married via court marriage as his parents are against it. So what could be the safe way so that he can get married and no one knows about it. ALSO CAN ANYONE CREATE PROBLEM IF HE WILLS TO DO SO?My friend wants to get married. What is court marriage procedure? Also what is safe way to hide from parents?
    Anything you want to discuss with your parents and don鈥檛 know how to鈥ll your answers in this site.My friend wants to get married. What is court marriage procedure? Also what is safe way to hide from parents?
    he can do whatever he wants if he and she are over 18. parents don't like it? too bad. go to Vegas and get married or just the court. better yet seek Godly counsel, sounds like they are going to need it.

    I am Catholic but was married outside the church. Can I still receive the sacrament of marriage?

    My husband is protestant and we intend to remain married. I regret now that I wasn't married in the church/tradition I grew up in and was wondering if it's still possible to receive the sacrament of marriage?I am Catholic but was married outside the church. Can I still receive the sacrament of marriage?
    Yes, all you have to do is have your marriage convalidated, then you can receive all the other sacraments. Some people call it having your marraige blessed but that is inaccurate. Your marraige is already blessed. Your husband does not have to convert, but he will have to agree to raise the children Catholic. There are too many reasons to fully explain all the teaching behind the practice in just a few paragraphs, but that answers your question in a nut shell.





    here are some resosurces for you:


    Bringing Your Marriage Into the Church


    http://www.americancatholic.org/newslett鈥?/a>





    How to have a marriage convalidated or acknowledged in the Catholic Church


    http://www.ehow.com/how_4615814_marriage鈥?/a>





    It would be a good idea to attend Mass when you can, and make an appointment to talk to the priest.





    Welcome home:)I am Catholic but was married outside the church. Can I still receive the sacrament of marriage?
    The cure for this situation is to just be married. The first marriage according to Catholic Doctrine is doubtfully valid, many versions of the ceremony exist and you might not be able to get a copy of the words used in it.





    If the Protestant party intends to not convert, then the ceremony is not held in the church, but in the sacristy to the side, if there is one.





    Of course, the Conciliarists have rewritten the Canon Laws in 1983, twenty years after they had already been changing the sacramental matter and form, so perhaps they also changed what Trent says on lawful matrimonial ceremonies.
    I was married in a catholic church, my hubby has no religion(he believes he just doesnt have a religion). I had to go to a class and then I could get married in the church..talk to the Father at your church...you may just have to get re-married. Your hubby doesn't have to convert...but if he loves you he should get married in a church so that you will feel better about yourself. Maybe you can just have a simple small ceremony to pacify the church.
    I'm not positive, but I think he needs to be Catholic, too, in order for it to be considered a sacrament in the Church. Don't hold me to this, because I'm not sure...


    I think the Catechism of the Catholic Church is online somewhere, I would definitely go check that out and see what it says.


    Best of luck!
    The Church probably already recognizes your marriage. It can and will bless the marriage bond that already exists.





    This is called a Convalidation of Marriage. Here is an article about the steps involved: http://www.americancatholic.org/Newslett鈥?/a>





    Talk to your parish priest to get the process started.





    For more information, see the Code of Canon Law, paragraphs 1156 and following: http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__鈥?/a>





    With love and prayers in Christ.
    They will probably require you to take marriage encounter/counseling classes first. It was required last I heard of any couple marrying in the Church. Best bet though is checking with your local parish. They might wave that part if you have been together for awhile.
    Yes you can still be married in the Church, since the Church does not see you as married currently. A Catholic can marry a non-Catholic in the Catholic Church. It happens all the time.
    Sure it is, possible. As long as you have no impediments to marriage, you can have your marriage blessed and recognized by the Church. Pax Christi
    Yes of course you can.All you must do is have you and your Husband meet with the Priest and make arrangements to have your marriage blessed and confirmed in the Catholic Church.
    Just go talk to the priest have your marriage blessed then you can receive the sacraments.Yes you can get married again in the church.
    So you're asking if believing in one false myth lets you join in an imaginary cerimony with someone believing in another false myth? mmmm...let's see now...ok...here's my answer....who cares?
    So why are you now in such a tizzy? You kinda answered your own question, which shows how much of a cult the Catholicism really is! You are suppose to have a ';relationship'; with Jesus, not a traditional dog and pony show! Get over it, and love your hubby, and Jesus, I did the same thing, the ONLY reason was to get my folks off my back, just made a mess of our relationship, wasn't worth it at all!.Brought no glory to The Lord, just my folks to save face in the church.

    Can a marriage be annulled in Philippines even if the legal separation took place in another country?

    My Aunt was married in the Philippines to an Australian citizen then they had legal separation in Australia. Now, she has an American boyfriend and they wanted to marry here in the Philippines. Since she were separated already, is it possible for her and her boyfriend to marry in the Philippines?Can a marriage be annulled in Philippines even if the legal separation took place in another country?
    I married in Albania and divorced in UK.





    Divorce can be done in most places as long as you have all of the paperwork.

    Is it mandatory to wear only gold jwellery in marriage reception?For fancy look cant one try artificial jwlry?

    I want to mix and match my jwellery to make the look come out of conventional look.Can I wear gold plated silver or artificial jwellery on my reception day?Is it mandatory to wear only gold jwellery in marriage reception?For fancy look cant one try artificial jwlry?
    Not at all.....


    Not only gold but you can also try:


    diamond, precious stones, platinum, silver and if you are not comfortable go for ethnic artificial jewelery...All d best!Is it mandatory to wear only gold jwellery in marriage reception?For fancy look cant one try artificial jwlry?
    ofcourse you can try artificial jewelry.





    Dhruvika


    http://www.myjewelersplace.com
    ya ya u can wear reception isnot more important it is just show off thats it the main think that should be gold is MANGALYAM ok u can opt for any its your wish just choose a goog one which matches u r reception costume
    Yes you can not all ';real'; jewellry looks good


    But if you find the perfect artificial jewellry and it doesn't look to cheap or cheesy nothing wrong with wearing it
    none is preventing you. it is for you mto decide
    Gold shows ur richness
    no its not at all compulsory

    If a female leaves the job because of marriage is she not entitle to claim PF?

    Pls explain ';Application for final settlement can be sent by a member on completion of 2 months from the date of leaving service, if the reason for leaving service is other than superannuation, medical ground, retrenchment and V.R.S./ Female members getting married etc.';If a female leaves the job because of marriage is she not entitle to claim PF?
    plz refer the budget 2009-2010If a female leaves the job because of marriage is she not entitle to claim PF?
    You need to study the rules prevailing in provident fund. It will be certain minimum period of service required to get amount. Getting married comes under resignation category. I have written topics in 'google' may please see.
    it means you can claim it at anytime since the reason is marriage.
    she IS entitled to it. marriage does NOT bar anyone from claiming PF.

    What are the disadvantages of marrying under Special Marriage Act?

    What are the disadvantages of Special Marriage Act of 1954 of India over Hindu Marriage Act of 1955 ? Or the question is the meaningless as perhaps Special Marriage Act came to remove critical marriage constraints/problems posed by religion?What are the disadvantages of marrying under Special Marriage Act?
    I find only advantages in marriages under the Special Marriage Act, 1954 %26amp; no disadvantages as been told by some person who knows NOTHING about Indian legal system %26amp; Indian enactments. As far inheritance by a Hindu of his parents property is concerned that has nothing to do with the manner of his or her marriage as that right to inherit is by birth %26amp; nothing to do with marriage, secondly the marriage under this Act has nothing to do with the religion, caste, creed, nationality etc of any persons getting married under this Act, they can be belonging to any religion, caste, creed, nationality etc or of same that hardly effects the legality of the marriage. The marriage under this Act require only one month prior notice given to the Marriage Officer %26amp; after the expiry of this notice period marriage in presence of three witnesses, registration %26amp; getting the Valid Marriage certificate. Do you know the total time take for marriage, its registration %26amp; getting the Marriage certificate is not more then 10 minutes in the Office/Court of the Marriage Officer %26amp; that too during office hours usually in the morning time. The right to inherent the property by succession or even as Hindu Coparcener in an Ancestral Hindu Property will in no way get effected by your civil marriage as there is no change of religion by you, secondly this right as previously told is by birth in the family not by virtue of your marriage.What are the disadvantages of marrying under Special Marriage Act?
    I'll answer quickly as I am busy at the moment.





    1. If you read the fine print - you cannot claim rights over family property etc. So if you have relatives who know this and won't to take away your share of inheritance if ever it can be used against you.





    2. Special marriage act is normally when two diff religons marry





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  • How marriage affects my FAFSA application?

    Heres the story:


    My fiance and I are ready to get married at anytime and we are really just planning on getting married whenever we feel like it. I am thinking about filling out a FAFSA to see if i can get aid for Spring of 2007. I have never gotten aid before, my parents have paid it all.


    My parents claimed me on their taxes this year, so if i get married in the next month or so, then fill out the FAFSA, will i have to use THEIR(my parents) tax and income information, or will I be able to use mine and my husbands info as far as income and taxes????





    THANKS FOR ANY HELP!!! please do not refer me to the website, i looked there already.How marriage affects my FAFSA application?
    Marital status is as of the day you fill out your FAFSA. If you get married this weekend and fillout your fafsa on monday you would include both yours and yuor new spouse's 2005 tax info, even though you were not married in 2005. If you fill out the fafsa today and then get married this weekend you will need your's and your parent's (if you are under 24) information. Marital status can not be changed mid year, so what ever choice you make will be good till the 0708 FAFSA. If you want to try and see the different results visit the calculator section of www.finaid.org for the EFC calculator.How marriage affects my FAFSA application?
    You definitely should. Now that you are married you will not have to count your parents income. This could mean that you now potentially qualify for the Pell Grant and other need based aid, including stafford loans. Life has been so much easier for me with financial aid since I turned 24 (another way to be able to stop counting your parents income and be considered independant). Congratulations!
    Well, if you are getting married, then the government will look at your husband's income also. If he is financially able to support you, then you FAFSA application will be rejected. You only need your info, your husband's, and your parents.
    it goes on the previous year's tax form. so it will be your parents income since they claimed you for the last tax filing. You won't be able to use your husband's until the next year after the two of you have taxes together.

    Married people tell me the truth. How many times you fell in love during your marriage?

    I am not talking about cheating BUT just falling madly in love with some one, without letting your spouse know about it.Married people tell me the truth. How many times you fell in love during your marriage?
    I have been with my husband for 5yrs. I married him b/c I got pregnant. Wrong choice. I never have cheated on him and had one crush several years ago, but it was just a crush. Unfortunately I have fallen for someone from my past. I don't feel bad about it because I know my husband has screwed around on me. We are basically the trophy family for him. I think the only way you can fall for someone outside your marriage is if there is nothing in your marriage.Married people tell me the truth. How many times you fell in love during your marriage?
    Getting a crush on someone else while you are married is natural and probably not avoidable. What IS avoidable is acting on it. If you find you are attracted so someone who is not your spouse, the appropriate thing to do is limit or avoid contact with that person. You already married the person you love. Don't go looking for love with someone else when it is already in front of you with your spouse.
    I've never been married, but it would seem to me that if someone was to get married, then there should be no need for love elsewhere. I can understand having a crush on someone else or being physically attracted to someone else, but falling in love with someone else is something that you have to spend some time developing by being around that person. I think that if feelings start to brew, that the person in question should get out of that situation since it might get dangerous. Besides, the love of your life is waiting at home, and it's quite disrespectful to him/her, the union in your home, and the vows you swore to uphold in front of whatever entity you pray to and the state. I don't think there is any room for falling in love with anyone else when you're married.
    Your mind in a healthy marriage does not allow you to fall in love with another person.In a healthy marriage a person is to busy applying the proper attention to there spouse.Are you confusing attraction with love? We are all attracted to others,its human nature.But falling in love is a big red flag that all is not well at home.
    if you fall in love with someone else while you are married.. you're already cheating. its called an emotional relation versus a physical one which could be even more dangerous. i've only been married for 3 years, but i have never had feeling for anyone but my husband. you shouldn't let yourself even begin to get that close to another person.
    honestly,not once.I truly don't even get close enough (emotionally i mean) to even learn about another man,let alone fall in love with him.I hate to say it, but it sounds like you never had that deep,everlasting,emotionally exhilarating love for your husband :(
    NEVER!





    I love my husband. I don't have feelings for another person. And it kinda makes me sick to think about that. It makes me cry to think about not having my husband with me.





    Falling in love with someone other than your spouse while you are married is cheating in my book.
    1 time. nearly got a divorce over it and didnt care. until both guys pulled out guns on eachother. (fastforward) time passed, still with husband (12 yrs) %26amp; the other guy thankfully moved on and we can still be friendly and respectful to one another. He understood that's life!!!!!


    but i will NEVER do that again.
    As soon as I started developing any such feelings I ended the friendship and went to work on my marriage.





    ';You'; are falling in love with the fantasy; not the real person.





    Hopefully you are not mistaking a /crush/ for love.
    Once. I have fell short and am trying to get back out of LUST as I speak. I love my hubby and realize the fact that the other person was new and exciting, however, it is nothing more than lust???
    yes,





    i understand the meaning of fell in love....





    yes be frank i have been attracted by 3 girls including you





    good day
    what kind of question is this? you should be asking married people did they fall in love while cheating because that is what this pretty much boils down to
    Never. I had different women on the side, but I didn't give a damn about them. I just used them.
    In my first marriage once.
    Fall in love? Never, but I did have a serious crush on someone I worked with.
    Never never never!!!! Been married going on 13 years now would not change any thing!!!!!
    dude! how can you fall in love with someone else but not be cheating? are you talking lusting after another women?

    How can i receive a copy of a marriage certificate from copenhagen Denmark?

    Marriage certificate in Danish is: vielsesattest





    Go to this danish website to find out more:





    http://www.vielsesattest.dk/





    Here's an other one: https://www.personregistrering.dk/index.鈥?/a>





    I wasn't able to find any sites in english though, sorry! There are however several free online translators that can help you translate what you need.





    Hope you find what you need!

    Should my girlfriend and I live together before marriage?

    My girlfriend says she wont live with me unless we are married. But I am afraid that I wont know if she is the one unless we live together first. I mean, how are we supposed to find out if we can get along on a permanent 24/7 basis?? She is my best friend and I do love her, so I will respect whatever her wishes are.Should my girlfriend and I live together before marriage?
    You may have to agree to disagree on this issue if shes not willing to live together before marriage...Everyone is entitled to their opinion or beliefs when it comes to sharing a household so unless you can both agree then its probably best that you continue to respect her wishes...She can also respect your feelings on this even if she may disagree with it.=)Should my girlfriend and I live together before marriage?
    I am a strong believer that living together will tell you everything you need to know. You got it exactly right - how do you know you'll be able to be around one another all that time? How do you know you'll be able to handle each others bad habits?





    People will probably try and tell you that it's wrong to live together when you are not married, but that isn't based on anything but that persons own morals and values. Common sense says differently. I know loads of couples who have broken up after spending a week on holiday together because it was too much for them. They didn't get along when living so closely together.





    If your girlfriend doesn't want to because of her own morals/beliefs, then you have no chose but to respect that. If it's because of something else - maybe friends/family/romance have influenced her - then try and explian why you think it's better to test the waters before jumping in head first into the unknown.
    LOL...there is no such thing as 'the one'! There is only KNOWLEDGE and SKILLS!


    re: how are we supposed to find out if we can get along on a permanent 24/7 basis?


    %26gt;%26gt;%26gt; Only way I currently know is by first learning all you can about good relationship skills/methods/techniques, etc. and then put them into practise with your partner.





    BTW, being best friends is the number one most important relationship skill (assuming you actually know what a 'best friend' is!).


    The next most important skill is: 100% honest truthfulness.
    I actually read something that couples who DIDNT live together before marriage have less divorce rate than couples that did. I was always along your lines of thinking too, test out the product and all that, but apparently statistically we are wrong.
    i dont think theres anything wrong with it and your right you wont know unless you try it and see if you can stand to betogether all the time without hating eachother in the end
    You probably wont get along 24/7 buy hey, that's marriage. This is how is supposed to be. we are different. But love covers it all!! :) good luck