How do I keep my marriage together?

My husband and I have been married for over a year and he decides that he doesn't want to be married anymore. He says he loves me with all his heart, but just don't want to be married. I love him soooooo much. I have suggested counseling and everything. He said that its not me, he said that its him. I wonder does it have anything to do with him being in the Navy. I don't know what to do.How do I keep my marriage together?
i always say that when your partner ';';says its not you, its me, that really means its you, but i don't understand the cop out! with the i love you with all my heart! maybe hes testing you, trying to push your button for a reaction, ask him exactly what does he mean and if he wants a divorce your going to have to accept his decision gracefully, good luckHow do I keep my marriage together?
yeah, he's probably just stressed. off to give him a trial separation, perhaps you'll still live with each other (for expense sake) but you'll lead more separate lives. that should jolt him right out of things. and maybe he'll be more able to see what the REAL cause of his stress is.
If he really loves you ';with all of his heart,'; he'd want to remain WITH you, and be married to you. It's been a year- please don't waste several more on someone so selfish.



Sometimes the thought of being married is absolutely suffocating to some people. I don't think it's the navy.
Maybe he is gay? And he just recently found out about it?
I know Your Heart is breaking. Be patient. and wait. Maybe He's going through a diffecult time.
This is going to sound counter-intuitive, but your best bet may to make it all about YOU. Do not try to 'help' him to understand, or in any other way, don't try to make things easy for him. Do not leave in order to give him space, don't do anything FOR him. Just take care of yourself, in all senses of the word, especially doing things that you like, seeing friends, hobbies or classes, anything that makes you feel good, even for a few mins at a time. But don't put on a front either, of showing niceness or happiness when you're not feeling it. Do let him know what you are feeling, in words - such as feeling bad, sad, left out, devastated, uncomfortable, awkward, whatever (just don't use the word 'hurt'). Just say your feelings simply, without long explanations. Don't make judgements or accusations, don't ask him why about anything. If he says or does something that makes you feel good, say that, too.





In short, let him know how the situation is affecting you deep inside, let him see that you are vulnerable emotionally, but show him with your actions and attitude that you can take care of yourself by keeping busy and getting support from others.





If he won't go to counseling with you, go by yourself. You need and deserve support, and professionals know how to give that to you, while giving you tools to mend your relationship.