Have you husbands/partners been helpful, or maybe not?Is having a baby a good thing or bad thing for a rocky marriage?
its a bad thing. bringing a baby into a rocky relationship won't save it, it will put more stress on it and chances are will drive the couple apart sooner.Is having a baby a good thing or bad thing for a rocky marriage?
Oh jeez, it is insanely rewarding but also VERY stressful. It would probably throw a rocky marriage over the edge because having a baby is so much work and requires the two parents to work together.
Bad Id say...
Females have these silly fantasy rosey tinted dreams ...
Reality is different.
Likely to push you apert as no more lovely dovey time.
Guys gonner be like no more hanging with lads or life just trapped with person he dont like so bye bye,
Mum left with kid
Or couple gonner fight all the time, get physical, take it out on kids...
sounds like reciepy for uppleasantness all around not to mention ghuys gonner feel tricked and trapped
final nail in the coffin!
baby's need a good loving relationship with family ties,don't think to your self that by having a baby it will make a relationship work or hold you to gather,I've always played my part with two lovely boys now grown up them self's 'I'm proud to be their father and hope that all I've done over the years will give there children a positive start to a whole some life style
Can't think many marriages have been improved by having a baby, unfortunately. Marriages need working at, and looking after a baby takes a lot of work too. It takes two to make a marriage work. If one isn't prepared to work at it then that just heaps lots of misery etc on to the other. Having a baby is a 'tie'. It should be a 'tie' that bonds love, not resentment, as can sometimes happen.
no way!! babies make things much worse! it can cause strain on even the happiest marriages! children are lovely but bloody hard work too..then there is money issues etc.. its a definite no no to have a baby when you marriage is on the rocks.
A VERY BAD THING !!!!!! Having a baby puts strain on every couple, even the strongest relationships can be tested.
Not only do you have to tend to the baby round the clock but sometimes the Mum can get a bit resentful towards the Dad as she is stuck at home and he gets the freedom of going to work etc. My Hubby was and is helpful with our kids, thought sometimes I may have to ask him to do something.
As with all Mums that I know 90% of the bringing up of the kids is down to the Mum.
Believe me if a relationship is rocky then having a Baby will most certainly help to end the relationship totally.
My Husband and I planned and wanted both our children and I think that makes a big difference also, we knew what we were getting into with no surprise pregnancy's forced on to each other.
I have a 8 month old baby girl but when we had her our relationship was rocky after having her THE SAME.... Having a baby doesnt bring people together..............
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Think of the child not the marriage part. No one person should be responsible for the relationship of two other people. YOu cannot put that kind of expectations into a tiny innocent infant. Children have the right to be born to two competent people that love each other in a healthy and stable relationship and enviornment.
Children always complicate your life. It is not such a bad thing, if you are ready for it, but if your marriage is in shambles, KIDS ARE NOT THE ANSWER. They deserve better.
having a baby does not improve a rocky relationship. children should only be brought into this world with love. adding a child to a rocky relationship is not fair to the child. it is not the childs responsibilty to correct what is already wrong. and for a potential new parent to think that is totally irresponsible. if the relationship is already rocky, i would suggest going to a marriage counselor or get a divorce.
I can honestly say that having an unplanned baby is very stressful. My husband doesn't help to often and his family meddles in way too much. Sometimes I feel that the responsibility is too much for my husband to handle. I've heard that a baby usually brings couples together but it had been kind of separating us.
Please dont do it! It never works and the odd time it does it works for a short amount of tim then everything falls back into place again and it happens again!don't bring a child into the wolrd when it may be seeing arguments all the time. thats not a life for a child. try and sort out the problems before-hand!
Very stressful. You are happy about the baby but it is a HUGE change that you can not even begin to anticipate. Have a baby is something I highly recommend that you not do if you have a rocky marriage. My husband and I have a great marriage and we have had tough times since the baby was born just due to the change and stress and lack of sleep.
When he was an infant, my husband's impending birth was the final wedge that drove his parents apart. They were already separated by the time he was born and divorced shortly thereafter.
They had him thinking that maybe a baby would make things better. Never works...
A totally bad idea for many reasons including increase in stress and less money. If the marriage is on the rocks then it will most probably lead to another single parent. Not to mention what damage it could do to the child if they are arguing and fighting.
ok heres my story...
1) rocky relationship
2) planned baby was born
3) other half left when baby was a week old
so no it is a bad bad thing!!!
Bad thing if you're hoping the baby mends your marriage. A baby shouldn't have to come into this world with a job to do.
That is a very bad idea. Having a baby never solved anything and many times it is the beginning of the end
.Women are usually the ones that think it will hold the man, while the man will just feel trapped and want to move on..
Having a baby adds more stress to a rocky marriage.
A baby should be brought into a stable, loving environment, not into a relationship that is already in trouble.
I think it depends on the couple involved.
Some families might find it a bonding experience initially, squabbles between couples are often put on hold when their attention is diverted by a small person.
But I imagine as reality kicks in, and lack of sleep takes its toll, new and old arguments will begin to rear their ugly heads.
Never a good idea to have a baby to heal a struggling relationship.
Believe me, babies add stress. So if you have a rocky marriage already, it's doomed for certain if you add a baby.
AND... WHY would you want to bring a baby into the world knowing that it has a good chance of not having both parents together? That's torture!! It also makes for a more unstable life. No thanks... not my kids!
Having a baby is very, very stressful. I think it would make a rocky marriage harder.
Every new parent I know agrees with this ';No one should be allowed to get divorced in the year following the birth of a child';. The constant need of the child, the lack of sleep, the lack of time for yourself or your relationship...all of it magnifies the smallest issue like crazy. The dirty dishes left on the counter were just annoying - now they are the cause of an all-out screaming match over the importance of cleanliness with a baby in the house.
My husband was, and is very helpful. Dishes, laundry, cleaning, baby duties (bathing, changing, etc). And even with the increased fights between us, we are happier as parents than just as a couple. And it does get easier as the baby gets older...you just gotta push through that first year!
Having a baby in order to save a rocky marriage is such a bad thing to do
and no it's not all happy family's after a baby is born,
coz the mothers hormones start to change again from the pregnancy and she may get post natal depression
and then the baby crying all hours day and night and some men or women just can't cope with that
or the new mum now only has time for the baby,
please note i am saying some not all,
i have 4 children and never married but i am in a long stable relationship.
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