Is your life really over after marriage?

I know that you're supposed to truly be in love and everything, but once you get married, is it really any fun anymore? You only talk about one person, and think about one person, and dance with one person and kiss them and be in bed with them...After a while, doesn't it get kind of boring? I don't want to be in a bickering and nagging relationship like my parents. Will someone who has experience please tell me, honestly?Is your life really over after marriage?
No. It is only as boring as YOU make it. if YOU keep pining for ';that which cannot be'; then YOU will make your life boring, and probably end up divorced.





One of the secrets to staying married a long time is to keep falling in love all over again -- every day. One easy way to do this is to geneate ONE compliment every day - ';you aftershave smells great';, ';that shirt really looks good on you';, ';That last hit you made at the company softball game was REALLY impressive!';, --OR--, ';I like the way those pants fit your package'; (married people can say that!)





Make one night a week Date Night. Doesn't havae to be Saturday -- restaurants are more ';intimate'; on Wednesdays and Thursdays, i've found. Don't take the kids, and leave work and home problems at home. Go out, just like you used to. Enjoy each other's company.





While you are out, start making love in preparation for Friday or Saturday. Lovemaking starts WAY early, by holding hands across the table, kissing in the parking lot, playing ';grab-***'; on the way into the restaurant or movie. these things go a LONG way towards';getting into the mood'; for later in the wek.





And if you don't make it until later in the week, then go ahead and do it now.





As for the bickering -- DON'T. Bickering is a habit that many couples develop. So you need to develop ';anti-bickering'; habits. NEVER speak to your partner in anger. NEVER rasie your voice. ALWAYS give your partner a chance to speak (in other words, shut up and take a breath once in a while). LISTEN to what your parnter is saying. Use the old ';restatemnt'; ploy: ';What I heard you say was . . . .';





this is not to say that you won't have arguments, but when you do you need to learn to argue successfuly. A good argument should be more like a Debate Team, and not a verbal fight. tempers are controlled, ears are opened. Shift brain into gear before engaging mouth.





';Being in love'; has very little to do with it. ';Being is RESPECT'; is everything. if you RESPECT someone, you WILL LEARN to love them.





to keep the love anf fun in your marriage you MUST always treat your partner with respect, at all times of the day or night, in all situations. if you do this you WILL learn to fall in love with them over and over again. And just as important, they will learn to love you again and again.Is your life really over after marriage?
I find my life much more interesting on a regular basis than it was when I was single--and I truly loved the single life--for a while.


Honestly, after a while, dating gets old, very old. Meeting and listening to some jerk's life story while you're wondering how much longer you have to sit there before you can end the date gets soooo old. Then you meet someone whose stories you can't wait to hear, someone who you WANT to spend your free time with, who makes your life so much better, adn then you forget all about the appeal of the single life.
You don't have to bicker and nag in marriage. You can choose not to do those things. You can also choose to have friendships, outside interests (both separate and mutual), and otherwise make your marriage every bit as fun and interesting as you both want it to be. I can tell you unequivocally that sex is good - in 23 years of marriage, I have had sex with my wife literally thousands of times, and I have never once thought during sex, ';I feel bored.';
Why would you only talk and think about one person? I mean there are other people in your life(aka family friends, etc.) then your spouse. I don't know where people get these ideas about marriage. ';Life ends after marriage';


Why would it end? You can still do the things you want to do, just now you have someone to share it with at the end of the day.


';Marriage gets boring';


Yes sometimes day to day things(like work and stress) can make a relationship(any relationship) feel less then a storybook love. But if you take time to really enjoy each other and try new things you'll always come back together.
Yeah, my life ended with marriage--NOT. I have more fun now than I ever did, because I have someone to have fun with. I have a full life, a fun life. Guess what? I still dance with whomever I want to. And since my husband is a creative and imaginative person, we have quite a bit of fun in bed too!
your life changes. it is all in how you look at it. if you look at it in negative terms, then i suppose life would be over. personally, i love being married. one person to spend your life with, to love completely and cherish. when a marriage is right there is nothing better.
Well, that depends. It doesn't have to be over. You learn to over look silly things and try new things together. Go places together, laugh at one another, argue with each other and love each other. There is so much going on all the time, that patience and understanding are a big plus.
No, it's not over. Kickboxing in hell is much more interesting than just living alone in an apartment.
Marriage is what you make of it, just don't rush into it and you'll be fine
Well, it's not over but life ';as you knew it'; is over and yes, totally boring...you end up arguing over everything, everyday.