Because Marriage is a moral institution in which to raise a family.Marriage is an enormous commitment; why did you decide to say yes or no?
In my particular situation I had a child at the time, but I dont think that was a good idea. Two years later I was divorced, because of her cheating on me. I feel that a decision of marriage should be made earlier careful consideration in regards to love for your partner. If you dont think that you know your partner yet you probably dont. consider the statistics, most couples divorce after three years of marriage. I feel that in order to have a strong marriage you should be with your partner for ;longer than 2 years before you label your relationship as a ';marriage';.
First off, congrats, Bandit... 40 years. A shining example of doing it the right way. And there is a right way, it isn't just make a guess and see if the one you picked was right. Marriage is not a game show.
I proposed to my wife because I believed in our ability to come together in all things. If you know you not only love someone, but can seriously bond with them through hard times, because they will get hard, no matter who you're with or how perfect your significant other seems to be. But that's where it all comes into play. Learn everything about your partner, and make sure they've seen all of your sides as well. You need to know more than just how awesome they are when you're both happy. You need to know how they react to bad situations and problems as well. If they're cool, and level-headed and you know that they can help you and will accept your help when you know they need it, then you can seriously start considering marriage. I'm not saying that a person has to be perfect, but you have to know that you can deal with all of their imperfections.
In my previous serious relationship, it never felt ';right'; to think of us getting married... I always thought we would ';warm up'; to the idea of marrying each other, but it didn't work out.
When I started dating my now-husband, It felt right, from the beginning. We were comfortable talking about and discussing the possibility of marriage.
Then one day we decided to just go ahead with it...
Two years later, I still think I was lucky to have found him!
Playing for keeps! I think marriage tells your significant other and the world you are serious about your commitment. Every one can break up but it is down right expensive to get divorced, so getting married really says you are going to work your best at staying together. It is ok to have some doubts. Seek them out before you say ';I do';, if your faith in you and your fiances love is still there and has only grown stronger, then I think marriage is the next big step to making it official. Good luck :)
You say yes when it doesn't feel like an enormous commitment.
By that I mean - you are already committed, and this person is already your family - marriage is just the formalising (legally and socially) of the pre-existing commitment.
At least that's the way it is for me :)
You either are in love with them or you are not. It's just that simple. I dated about 100+ guys before i decided to slow down, and when i did, i met the man I knew I would spend my life with. I knew that i wanted to be a better woman from that moment, and I knew that I wanted to have his babies...and i'm 32. It's also when you can't imagine your life without them.
i think we both knew almost immediately but before i start let me assure you that there are almost as many ways to annoy the devil out of each other. so you have to be ready for that as well. so many couples seem to think it will always be sweetness and light - and sweetie it isn't. lol
so here we go:
/we were comfortable together from the first time we met
/whenever we were together it brought peace to my soul and still does
/he was and still is my rock
/his arms were and still are my shelter when i'm feeling unsettled or unhappy
/he was able to look through this ugly shell of a body that fate gave me and see the inner beauty of my soul
/he stands strong and tall for me when i am unable to do it for myself
there were so many and still are so many ways to know i am loved and i wish you the same love, joy and happiness in your relationship that we have found in ours.
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he says he knew i was the one because i was feisty and never back down if i think i'm right. he knew that i would always stand strong beside him in a battle. and he knew that i had had a great example of what marriage should be because my parents were so awesome together. he also says he loves the way i blush over silly things - lol..
all i know is we are good together and our world is better because of that.
Because although he's got faults, so does everyone else and I'd rather put up with his crap then other people's. :) We're very compatible in every way (wants, goals, dreams, desires, beliefs, values, behaviors, priorities, etc) and support each other in what we do individually.
He can also put up with my crap too :)
He has shown me a lot about myself I didn't know, and I have grown to be a better person from knowing him. I think I am a better person WITH him then without. He adds value to my life (not that I don't have that on my own, but he is truly a special find).
I hadn't found anyone else to date who I was so compatible with (I am 27), so the pros easily outweighed the cons. Plus I love him with all my heart, which doesn't hurt either :)
I just couldn't imagine living any part of my life without my man.
He asked me to marry him but I was nervous and I couldn't say Yes but I didn't say No either. Then I went away for a week with a good friend and while I was gone I realized that I wanted him in my life, every day for the rest of my life. I went back and said Yes, Yes, Yes!!
My mother always told me not to marry the person I could live with, but rather the person who I couldn't live without. I've followed that advice and I truly can't see my life without my honey. Doesn't mean everything is perfect all the time, but it means that despite our differences, I still want to be with him for the rest of my life.
Forever is a long, long time...
Because I want to spend forever with him as his wife. I am so excited to take his name, it is one of the most precious gifts he could ever give me. We will be our own little family, with kids in the future, and it's just such a feeling of happiness. My parents were married for 34 years when my father died and they had the best relationship I have ever see between two people. They had a mutual respect and unconditional love that I can't even describe. I have always wanted that myself but could not find a man who I wanted to share that with until I met my fiance.
my decision to say yes, was based solely on the man i'm now engaged to. i ran everything over in my head.
-am i really in love with him?
-do i really believe he loves me - for me, not for who i could be?
-can i see myself waking up every morning with this man, and going to bed with him every night?
-can i see us having our issues, but always working them out?
-can i see myself raising kids and living a 9-5 with this man?
-can i see myself never falling out of love with this man?
-if something happened, could i see me taking care of him, or him of me?
-do i trust this man?
-do know that he will never intentionally hurt me?
-do i love every minute i spend with him, and hate every minute i'm not with him?
-does he bring out a good side of me?
i was able to answer yes to all of these questions, which says to me, that i will be able to spend the rest of my life with this man, and that we're truly in love, and that's why i said yes!
The determining factors are; if you love him, if you can really look ahead and see yourself with him, if you can't be without him for more than a couple days. If you too are compatable and get along well then what the hey, give it a chance :)
Because I love him and he loves me. There are no negatives in our relationship (we've never had a fight... ever... and we've been engaged for more than a year, and together for about three). We both know that we want to spend our lives together. We have the same outlook... our plans for life are the same... really, there is absolutely nothing to say ';no'; about. :)
Marriage is not only a moral environment, it is a legal commitment. You cannot walk out the door if you get tired or angry. I wanted the same promise from my wife that I made her. 40 years this coming March.
i wanted the bling before my friends! ha ha, that's one of one hundred million reasons you decide to say yes.
Being young and in love makes you do a lot of things without thoroughly thinking them through.
Because i love him with every fiber of my being...and he is the only one i see myself with for the rest of our lives
yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
cos you love the person and never want to let them go?
xo
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