We have a debate in school: Should husband and wife sticks to their marriage vows even if love is gone?

Our teacher told us to prepare for a debate regarding this question. We are assigned in the ';NO'; section. Please I need your help to have a good explanation. This is the question:


Should husband and wife sticks to their marriage vows even if love is gone?We have a debate in school: Should husband and wife sticks to their marriage vows even if love is gone?
well this is a tough question since i'm not really favour of the divorce..let me see if i can give you some points...


if love is gone then there's no reason to stick together, but love plays only very less percent in our life, it's our attitude plays a big role in our life. if we have that certain attitude, we can change our feelings although not in quick blink of your eyes. you can let go of your marriage but be prepare of any consequences...everything has always consequences even if it's right. u can let go your marriage vows and face the consequences or you can stick together and find some ways but still face the consequences. not sure with this idea but hope this gives you an idea too...good luck!We have a debate in school: Should husband and wife sticks to their marriage vows even if love is gone?
Ok then, no they shouldn't. I mean why? There is no love, the marriage will more than likely fail, and we all need some loving, don't we? Some people don't stick to the vows and are still in love. You should check out the statistics for marriages that end in divorce due to cheating. You are in a loveless relationship bound by a piece of paper. Sure you said your vows but even God makes mistakes sometime. You are lonely, you seek companionship, ok, even sex. What are you going to do? Wait out a divorce? Most people wouldn't. At this point the marriage is over. What ever vows that were uttered are meaningless. The love and possibly the respect are gone. You are/have drifted apart. You are no longer a couple but separate entities. You have needs that are not being fulfilled. File for divorce, move out and carry on. Good luck on your debate.
IMHO, if the love is gone, it's because they got lazy with each other and let it slip away. Or got so wrapped up in themselves, they forgot they are part of a partnership. If you loved a person once, you can love them again if you want to.


The only reason I am an advocate for divorce is if there is abuse of any kind or infidelity.








Edit:


Here are some reasons I hear leaving a loveless marriage is a good idea. I don't believe them, but you are looking for reasons to leave, not stay in, a loveless marriage for your debate.





I hear a lot of life is too short to be unhappy, so if the love is gone divorce and find someone else. (that could be one reason to leave if the love is gone)





Children are resilient so if you don't love your spouse, divorce, they will adjust. You deserve to be happy.





It's not fair to your spouse to stay in a loveless marriage. They deserve to be with someone that loves them.





It's not fair to your children to stay in a loveless marriage. They will see it and think that is just how marriage is and end up in their own loveless, unhappy marriage.
That would be an ethics question and individual between husband and wife. Religion would also play a large role. I think any marriage can be saved if both parties put the effort into it. However if one or both parties is seeking love elsewhere then it gets even more difficult. The only way I believe a marriage can be saved is if both want it to succeed. My ex after many therapy sessions decided he wanted to be with his mistress and no amount of effort on my part would change that.





I hope this helps. No matter what it is a difficult decision and painful.
I think so. If you get married you swear to love your partner forever, usually both on a Bible AND a legal document. In another situation, divorce would be perjury. If it wasn't for divorce, people would be more cautious before getting married, the number of divorces would decrease, and there would be more successful families. Unless there is a very specific reason a couple should be divorced (meaning they have already broken their vows) they should be together.
THAT IS SUCH A GOOD DEBATE!


the vows were meant for life that what marriage should be,,, so yes they should, in one side of the debate,,, but things have changed in these years and ppl dont take marriage as serious as it should be! The being in love the way your are in the beginning if a relationship is different to the one when ur in the marriage I would think... yeah you love that person cant see why living all your life with them can change any love and if it does to the point of hating the person then I think its time to call for a divorce.





But really good debatr
marriage is one of the fundamental building blocks of a Civilization.


Destroy the base of a Civilization and you destroy the entire Civilization.


Just like the foundation of a house.


Yes,people should stay married to each other after they are married.


The effects of this run home and live off of your Baby Boomers parents money and attack your babies daddy will have a devastating long term outlook on our Nation as is evident in the idiocy of eleciting an Islamic Terrorist as President of the US during a time when our Nation is at war with Islam.



if you have children then you definitely should not be together. Your children would see you two together and assign that behavior with being a good relationship. if you just want to be together for public image, finances or because of a mistake that one of you made then you should definitely at least separate and spend some time on self reflection. hope you win the debate.
Marriage vows is a serious thing that needs not to be toyed with. God takes our vows serious.To make it clear even if the love is not there again but it can be revived. Something led to the death of the love of the marriage. The couple should check out those things and fix them.
definantly not. love was the reason they got married, if there is no love what is there?


also if there are kids involved it is better to split. kids prefer to come from a broken home rather than live in one.
Oh wow what is your teacher trying to accomplish ? To burry marriage ?