Are marriage and serious relationships a bad idea? Or is it a lottery if it will work out or not?

Some people think so, that everything is ok when conditions are good, you have a job and money etc. But when things go bad it can end a relationship.Are marriage and serious relationships a bad idea? Or is it a lottery if it will work out or not?
It depends whether people are well equipped in handling a serious relationship or not. Unfortunately some people see the good times and think that is what makes a relationship but when the bad times eventually come around the corner they are at a loss.





Again some people are more about the big day. The wedding, the cake and the honeymoon are things that they entertain, but when all the glitz and glamour is over some tend to struggle with the basis of what a marriage is all about.Are marriage and serious relationships a bad idea? Or is it a lottery if it will work out or not?
I don't think the outside circumstances should matter, like a job and money, people should be supportive of their partner no matter what. What's peoples deal with money anyway? That's the problem, all those outside things of society that dictate everything we do.





I feel like people are becoming more and more selfish, and because of their lack of caring about their significant other relationships tend to fall apart so easily in our society today. I really couldn't answer that question. I think there is always hope though, if you find the right person who is willing to work hard at it to make it work. I do think, really though the only reason to have a marriage is if you plan on starting a family. Kids should have married parents as a good example, and parents that stay together and continue to love each other. Hard to find...but that's the ideal.





It's not a lottery. It's up to you.
They take work. Its not so much a lottery.


It is true when things are good the relationship is good, but when things are bad it puts a lot of strain on the relationship.





Work, if you and your partner are willing to work and Communicate then it has a great chance of working out. Remember, no matter what is going on in life make time for you partner. See what they want to do and what you want to do. The main thing is communicate and work on it together.
Hun, no relationships and marriage aren't a bad idea, as long as you play your cards right, know what you are getting into, and have the right person in your life. It honestly depends on what you will put into the relationship and what your significant other puts in the relationship too. Try not to find a girl who will use you for your money. Make sure she has goals in life, and can also support herself. It's not the lottery if it works out or not. Relationships don't just work out by chance or fate. Both parties involved need to make the ultimate sacrifice and commitment to making it work. Hope this helps. Good luck! =)
Well let me see if I can answer this by giving you my own example.





My husband and I are giving up our very well paid London jobs and smart flat to start an eco business in Spain. We know it will be hard but we also trust in each other enough to believ it can work. I am putting my life in his ands and he is putting his life in mine.





Is this a lottery? No.





We have worked hard, fallen out, broken up, talked and talked and talked until we feel our realtionship is one of the unmoveable forces in our lives. He is my best friend, my inspiration not just my husband. Like anything else you get out what you put in. Marriage is not just a financial safety net or a romantic wedding it is a lifelong partnership in every sense of the word. If you can't lean on each other in bad times then you don't have a marriage or committed realtionship.
No doubt about it, there will be plenty of times in a serious relationship that you'll be thinking ';What the hell was I thinking?';...but thats only because bad feelings last too long. BUT...when its good...its VERY good. You've both just got to be completely honest with each other about everything, lots of kisses and no matter how angry you are- do not say you want to end things...odds are you'll feel like such a dumbass later on when you're having make up sex.





Don't be pessimistic, long term relationships can be great.
Whether the relationship survives the bad times is dependent on you and your spouse. So before you get married make sure the person you pick is ready to be there with you through all the good times and all the bad times.
I think that if you have an open communication and both partners are trying to work together and contribute then you have better odds than winning the lottery to make sure you have a good relationship


I think that communication is KEY
I think its a great idea BUT only if you marry someone that you truly love and they love you back. If you don't love each other then it will be difficult to get through the hard times but if you love each other then you'll do what you can to stick it out.
They're an investment pretty much. Too bad many of them go the way of Enron.
its like more to me an investment you put a lot into it and you'll get a good reward.
i married the love of my life. i think it is all about comprimise.