Does marriage really suck as bad as people say?

People say all happiness (and sex) just comes to a screeching halt after a couple is married. I mean, I want to get married one day, but 1/4 of all marriages end in divorce. So, all this is a little discouraging as you may imagine.Does marriage really suck as bad as people say?
Marriage is like eating the same bland food day after day. SUCKS BIG TIME!!!Does marriage really suck as bad as people say?
Marriage is what two people make it. The reason so many marriages end in divorce is because a lot of people think just because they are married they don't have to work on the situation any more and take each other for granted.


Actually, to have a happy marriage, people need to work harder than when they were single. Marriage usually involves children, financial pressures, among other things that take away a lot of the ';happy go lucky'; feeling of being single.


Marriage can be the best union ever if both people treat each other with respect and spice it up the same as when they were dating.
over 50% end up in divorce now. If you marry a man that your truly in love with and you both put in 100% effort to make it work you can make it but to many times 1 does 75% while the other does25% and that will not work in the long run. Marriage is a constant struggle. You have to make decisions together on almost everything. It's all worth it if you get along, compromise, continue to date, have great communication, stay faithful, never put yourselves in temptations way and always make up before you turn out the light at night. Then you have kids and everything doubles in difficulties.
Believe me when you find the right person, nothing will change dramatically. Once you know EVERYTHING about each other, things slow down a bit in the way of dating talk (you know how when you guys tlak for hours about little things?)





If you find the right person, sex life life won't change (until you have kids %26gt;.%26lt;) happiness still there, and sometimes you just need to find little things to make a day brighter ( like if he is ticklish, then exploit that fact). Marriage isn't easy by long shot, but with a bit of work and compromise (and some immaturity now and again) It's a lot of fun
Marriage can be great , but you have to work at it and be ready to compromise with your partner. I've seen a lot of people who will put more effort into their friends then the person they're suppose to spend the rest of their life with. Both people have to work to make a marriage survive, one can't do it alone. You have to put your partner ahead of yourself sometimes, make time to talk and listen to your partner, and watch that you don't take them for granted. Good luck I hope you find the right person for you.
No...every relationship have problems.





A good marriage comes from equally hard work put into the marriage, keeping people out of your business, talking through the good and bad, making decisions and planning together.





Many marriage fail, because one or both--husband/wife, wants to...or try to be single in a marriage.





A marriage is only as beautiful as the both of you make it...and it takes a lot of work, compromising, and patience.
If you live in the US, 1/2 of all marriages (that's 50%!) end in divorce. So your odds are even worse.





That said, marriage doesn't have to be terrible. My marriage is amazing and fulfilling and wonderful and the best thing that ever happened to me. But it has to be with the right person and you have to be mature enough to know that sticking with it through the hard times is what makes things so worth it. My husband is my best friend and soul mate and lover. Even though we've gone through rough patches, we always come out on top and have grown so much together!





This is the reason why I answer that I don't know if I would leave him in those ';hypothetical questions'; people post about ';what would you do if your spouse did this or this.'; I can't imagine a situation where my hubby could do something so terrible that it would make me not love him--that is how wonderful our marriage is.





All of that aside, does he annoy me at time? Yes. Do we go periods of time without sex? Occasionally. But do we love each other more than life itself at the end of the day and always make it work in the bedroom no matter what? YES.
No not all marriages are bad; if you wait for the right person to come along it will be wonderful; marriage is love and respect for each other;treat that other person the way you yourself want to be treated.Once the ring goes on the finger does not give either spouse the right to be disrespectful or think they have a maid or doormat;you share the work load evenly and together; that's what makes it fun; the togetherness.
Married takes some work to make happy. My experience being married, has been great so far, we've been together for 5 years, married for 2. For us, the sex life got ALOT better after we got married. We are very happy together and wouldn't have it any other way. We do have our problems, everyone does, no one is perfect. He has 2 step children and they are very awesome. It has put a little strain on our relationship, but that's because dealing with the split family is difficult, there's distance between us and all people involved do not like it. We have a child on the way are are very excited. I could not imagine my life without him in it. If I had to go back in time for any reason, I would not change a single thing. My husband is the best thing that ever happened to me, along with his two beautiful children. You just need to find the right person, the person that makes you feel complete. Don't just marry someone because it makes sense. You have to love them, feel as if you need them type of thing. I believe you will find him.
Like VillageG.. said, 50% of marriages end up in divorce. I learned to look at it from a positive side which means 50% of them will succeed. If you truly believe that it sucks, then your marriage won't prosper. It will fail because you believed it would. You need to look at the bright side or positive side instead of the negative side or dark side of it. I hope this helped you. Good luck.
i think marriage is amazing i love my husband more than anything in the world, as long as you are in love, stay faithful, trust each other, talk about EVERYTHING, and work out your problems there is no reason it shouldn't work out, unless your spouse cheats that is the only reason i would ever leave my husband. you will have ups and downs everyone does but if you love each other theb you will get through it.
If you don't take your time..and find the right person..and when you do not rush into it..and make sure you are compatible ..then things can go astray..but if you meet the right guy..and always work on things..because marriage is work ..and you both are willing to work for a good marriage..cuz it does take two..then you can be very happy and have a great marriage..
Probably the marriage itself isn't too bad but the divorce is. It's more than 1/4, not sure where you live but in the US, UK and places like that at the moment it's over 1/2. Not to mention how many experience infidelity etc. but never split up.





Harriet
the only people who say marriage sucks are those people who for whatever reason couldn't make their marriage work





i waited until i was 37 to get married. getting married was the best thing i have ever done. we have been together now over 25 years





sure, we have our ups and downs but overall it just keeps getting better
Marriage is alot of work and you have to be equally yoked with the person you plan to marry. Don't go in expecting him to change he is who he is. Make sure you want the same things believe the same in all aspects of life don't settle and know there is more to live than a man.
Marriage is like a garden...You have to ';tend it';.





Take care of the weeds quickly, before they over-run it.





And feed it with what it needs to flourish and be healthy.








And in that last statement...The Needs I'm talking about, are different for every person. A great book...Love Languages.





Marriage is work. But keep on it...and make effort, even when you seriously don't feel like it...and you'll have a happy, healthy relationship to grow old with!
Forget the statistics and get married because you and the guy you want to marry have decided making it legal is want you both want.





Marriage is 100% what the couple make of it.....and how much they want it.





For me marriage has been the best thing I ever did.....almost 35 years ago.
Some are good, some are bad.


My first one was a total mismatch and we ended up divorced. But I am remarried to a man I consider to be my true soul mate. And since we met in out forties, we know we're in it til death DOES part us.





It's worth the risk to me. I would hate to be lonely because I was too afraid to try!
Marriages end because they don't work on it or they do something so stupid like cheating to cause it to end. Marriage is work, but it is also fun. I know many couples who are going strong after many many years. You just have to work hard to keep it going.
people have unrealistic expectations and the medias views on relationships dont help . an people rush into marriage way to fast. so take your time make sure it right , and if people tell you hes all wrong for you or that he is doing some horrible listen dont shrug it off
1/2 of the relationship usually quits trying to make the other half happy, while the 1/2 that still cares, starts to realize that their other 1/2 quit caring, and it becomes a viscious cycle.
Just make sure you marry the right person. Obviously, the people who say that marriage sucks are usually the ones who get divorced !! ^__^
Find the right man. I've been happily married. Of course, we have our ups and downs but if anything the sex has remained the same as it did when we were dating.
We are doing fine after 28 years.
That is so not true.
I NEVER BEEN MARRIED..BUT I BELEIVE ITS WHAT U MAKE IT