No. That's why we cheat.Is it a good reason to leave a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?
So many people would leave because they do not have the right notion of what true love really is and disregard their marital vows. People today seem to seek happiness in all the wrong ways and reasons and it usually stems from a me me me attitude. The depths of love go deeper than ones ability to perform acrobatic sexually. It comes from a bond of deep love and friendship that leads to intimacy. One wants to show love and affection and receive it with their partner with a desire to give pleasure to one another through that display of affection and love for each other. When the bond of deep love grows the sexual experience comes with it. It is an experience of deep intimacy that only two people who have total trust and love for one another can feel. If the relationship is a good one based on deep love and friendship then you do not get a divorce for not being sexually compatible, what you do is work on it and the way to begin is from the heart. To show one another through affection of how much you love one another.
I'm on the other side of this. I want my husband to be more giving with sex. I may get it once a week too. I've tried everything!! Naughty messages, booby bars, sexy outfits, I even try to give him b.js in the middle of the day. I don't know that it's a reason to break up, but I've thaught about other guys. We've been togeather 13 years and we used to have sex all the time. It could be that it's only partly sex. Maybe you could send him a text with something like this in it. ';when you get home tonight I have a naughty surprise for you!'; then let him take a few pictures of you doing explicit things. You can erase them when your done. Sending dirty texts to him may just rev up your engine. If you need ideas on being naughty I'm the queen! Good luck sweetie!!!
Hardly a decent reason to leave. If you base your entire relationship on not being able to dress up in leather jack boots and an SS unifrm and drop from the light fixture on top of your wife then you have some growing up to do.
Especially since every other aspect of the marriage is ideal.
I have a swell idea. Tell him you feel the same way and the first thing you want to do is sodomize him with a strap on. Lets see how quickly he'll jump at this 'new and exciting' sexual experience.
After all..what's good for the goose must also be good for the gander.
Just be careful. Unless you're sure he'll refuse this you might be courting disaster so walk gingerly.
I don't think it is... I mean, yes you're different, but why can't you both compromise? Why can't this problem be worked through? Why does it go straight to divorce?
Of course, if neither side wants to make it work, it will end in divorce... All you have to do is try a little more and he needs to try some too. Why not get adventurous and have sex in the living room on your lunch break.... I bet he would love a nooner. :-) Also, why not up the amount of times you have sex during the week.... And if you tell me you haven't the time.... Then let me tell you, IF I can do it... so can you. I'm a working Mother of two small children, I also have physical therapy for my back problems, I cook, I clean and run errands.... and If I can find the time to have sex more than once a week..... anyone can. :-)
Sexual satisfaction is based on explaining each others needs. If you are not willing to satisfy your husband's sexual needs, then propose an alternative that might satisfy him. Mutuality needs to be practiced giving both parties a voice in what they consider pleasurable.
So propose an alternative.
don't get divorced. fix it. 10 years is a long time to do the same thing over and over and over and over and over again. you need to losen up and get creative. i'm sure you don't have to do anything outrageous just different. watch porn. good ideas there. hek! watch porn togethher that should be fun. at least do it more often. ( now if he wants you to have sex with animals or something then ya i would draw the line.)
I don't remember a caveat in the vows saying ';for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health, unless you're not sexually satisfied, for as long as you both shall live.';
So unless the pastor said that, I think you've got to work this out with your husband.
Why don't you talk to a couples counselor - maybe they could help you both meet in the middle. I think once or even twice a week is on the low side - especially if he wants more. Why don't you try to be more adventurous? If you've been married ten years, don't just let it slip away.
if you really love each other it shouldnt matter...
I knew someone who was in a car accident paralyzed down from the chest, what if that happened to your husband, what would you think? would you still want to be with him?
If sexuality is really important then I suggest you reconsider your thoughts
He will out grow his kinky thing and feel like an idiot for expecting you to act like they do in a Porno. If I were you and you are unhappy, dump him, he can spend the rest of his life finding skanks and hookers to live out his fantasy's with.
1 reason why people cheat is that they are not satisfied sexually... Why would you marry if you 2 weren't compatible??? Adventure is everything in the bedroom... Keep it alive... meet him in the with his desires he should do the same...
Sex is a major part of marriage to a man. Many don't leave because of this but its a major reason why they cheat. Try and give him more of what he wants. Hopefully he does the same for you in other areas.
Yes, I think it is if you are not willing to compromise. Or you can save you marriage and live a little. No one wants a frigged wife.
Well, what does he want specifically?
If I was not sexually satisfied I would have to leave, but then I would not have married a person I was not compatible with in the first place.
No I don't think it is a a good reason. Both of you need to more willing to work together to meet in the middle.
No...I don't think so, at least not for women. It can be worked out. I think if you value your marriage you would give him what he wants/needs. Not everyone ';feels like it'; all the time.
Damn woman, get on the bus. This isn't a good reason to lose a marriage. Embrace adventure.
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It's a great reason to leave a marriage.
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