Have you ever felt stuck in a marriage because of the kids?

I have been married for 5 years and very unhappy with everything? I have 2 kids, and feel like they need a father.Have you ever felt stuck in a marriage because of the kids?
I think that is one of the biggest reasons most people stay in an unhappy marriage.Have you ever felt stuck in a marriage because of the kids?
Millions of people have stuck in marriages that are just not going anywhere and say its because the kids. If your marriage to your husband is truly dead, or that you don't have the strength to work at it anymore, why waste the years. You will leave one day when the kids have flown the nest, and what will you be, a bitter middle aged woman. If you are truly stuck in a marriage like this, then you need to get out of it and pretty fast, You are damaging your kids, leaving may well hurt them not having their Daddy around much anymore, but that hurt will heal, children adapt so easily. However if stay they will grow up in the atmosphere of an unhappy relationship, they will not be getting the best from both parents, and worse still they will grow up thinking that is how adults are. No love between them, no cosy comfortable life of a happy family existence, they will think this is normal. The won't easily find or make good partners themselves and hence the circle goes on and on. Even worse if they grow up seeing a man hit and beat his wife, they too are more likely to turn into spouse beaters too one day. Get out of the marriage as soon as you can if you love your children. Even parents who are good at pretending that they are happy together and literally make the effort to show this to their children, the kiddies will still grow up with a warped sense of love. They literally won't understand or know what love is.





Now what about you. You have two young children so this tells me you are still relatively young. What about you? don't you think your worthy or have the right to someone who loves and respects you and most of all someone who loves you just for you? Of course you deserve this, and why should you not have it happen one day to you.





It may well be hard when you first leave, especially as you have children, but day by day you will grow in strength, you will literally feel that inner strength come into you. You will feel so proud of yourself, your confidence will grow, you will find the real you, and last of all you will have happy children.





Nothing is impossible, even if you have no money of your own, living apart can be achieved, the sooner you get a divorce, then at least then you will be more financial stronger for he must support his children until they are 18.





I hope this gives you courage to what I believe via your words, leave this man or ask him to go. The law is more on your when divorcing couples have children, they will award you the custody of the children. Keep things clean between you and your ex, allow him his visitation rights, don't put him down in the eyes of your children, remember he is still their father, play fair all the way. If he does not play fair, then again the law will be on your side, so its up to him what he does.





I wish you good luck, and I hope you heed the advice of the many answers you will get on a subject such as this, you can do it, you have the right as a human to find peace contentment and possibly happiness again if your looking for love once more. But give yourself time to live and grow first, your children are your utmost responsibility.
Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you will be getting.


Yeah, I feel like that sometimes, but then again, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage and it will never be greener on the other side for me.


My happiness has been at a very low level for many years. But thats life! The good, the bad and the ugly.


I usually find my deep happiness else where with other friends, that have things in common. My wife is cool and lets me enjoy life in general to the extreme fullest. She is much more happily married than I am. Every marriage out there is different and unique, no one are the same. Some are far fetch, strange and weird. Some are complicated and some are just plain simple old fashion loving each other in the strangest form. Old fashion, new fashion-whatever you want to call it.


Love comes in the most strangest, alien forms. I kid you not!


Deep in the middle of the hot burning desert, blooms a beautiful wild flower. Thats Life in the fast lane or the slow lane. You make the call.
They do need a father. But why are things unhappy? Have you done everything you can to make this marriage work...I mean everything?





If this is beyond being fixed then it is often better you separate than model a dysfunctional family. What your children see is what they believe marriage should be. Is what you are doing, what you want for them?
They will still have a father, just you won't be together. If you are that unhappy you need to start counseling, see if you can work it out, if not...best to split.





My parents stayed together until I was 14. I was begging them to get a divorce when I was 9....there is nothing worse than a sad house.
If it is something that can be worked out by all means work it out. Communicate. If you feel that you have put enough time and energy into this relationship then maybe it is time to move on...
I stayed in a crappy marriage for my children's sake. Later they told me they wish I would have left earlier. They were glad to see BOTH parents happier.
You have 2 kids who need a happy mother.
Your kids do need their father but if ain't happy I am not the one to tell you to leave.Think about your kids.
Yes yes yes and yes. I have 3.
No, not really.
No, I've never feel that way. Where is the kids' father?