How do you deal with jealousies? I am in a lousy marriage and so jealous of others' better marriages.?

Help! What is wrong with me?How do you deal with jealousies? I am in a lousy marriage and so jealous of others' better marriages.?
1. Don't watch romantic movies. It's not real


2. Don't read romantic books...again, not real


3. Most people hide the bad stuff in their marriage


4. Focus on the good in yours and work to make yourself a better personHow do you deal with jealousies? I am in a lousy marriage and so jealous of others' better marriages.?
Jealousy is nothing more than your own insecurity and unhappiness. Deal with it. You can have just as happy a marriage as anyone else if you and your husband work at it together and respect each other. Why is your marriage lousy, because you feel like a failure as a wife and blame your husband or constantly compare your marriage to someone else's? There probably isn't anything to wrong with you. It could be as simple as low self esteem or you married the wrong guy. It is not your husbands job to make you happy, it's your job to be happy with yourself first as an individual. Do you love and respect yourself? If you don't you can't expect anyone else to. .Are you still both in love with each other? Do you both want the marriage, if not then end it. How is your communication with your husband? Does he know how you really feel about yourself and the marriage? If he doesn't you need to take a big girl pill and tell him. If he doesn't know how you feel he can't help you. You owe it to him to be honest. Marriages can't work without respect, love, honesty and communication. Does your marriage have any of these things?
People do of course hide the bad in their marriages. But how about trying to look at what you find attractive in another marriage and applying it to your own. For instance, another couple talks about going to the lake, having a fancy dinner, things like this. Try them! Do some new things! Do the things that the people in that ';better marriage'; will do! Maybe then you'll realize you have nothing to be jealous about. Put some effort into it! I hope you find the happiness in your marriage again! Don't let it slip away!
If you're jealous of other's better marriages, then you need to sit down, make a list of what's wrong and address them with your partner. If you don't think it's worth the trouble, then it's not a healthy relationship for either of you. You're going to be miserable if you don't do something about it. Who wants that kind of life? Fix it or chuck it.
Jealousy is one of those human emotions that nothing good ever comes from it. Instead of spending all your time and energy coveting what others have. Put that energy into making your marriage better. The only way to change a bad marriage is for both parties to work on it together and give 100 percent of themselves to it everyday.
Are you sure that is what you mean? Or are you just sick and tired of your own lousy mess that you have? You got yourself into it and you can get yourself out of it. So what is wrong with you? If you are staying in it so you have something to complain about, fine, but you only shoud have one chance to do that here. After that get off of your butt and do something about it. And make a better choice next time. Or is that part of the problem too, you don't know how to make a good choice? Practice for most of us is the answer. Nothing came to us easily or on the first try.
Remember many of those marriages you're jealous of probably only look nice from the outside.





With that said, you should figure out a way to get out of your lousy marriage, whether it's by working with your spouse or by getting out of it completely.
Instead of hating others for their happy marriage ( no marriage is perfect BTW) how about working on yours? If your partner doesn't want to improve what's wrong than it's time to move on.
Well instead of spending all your time thinking about others marriages why don't you spend that time working on your own marriage or if it is that bad then find yourself.