There is also the danger of the marriage breaking if she immediately discloses it. What should be the best attitude in such circumstances. Whether the answer will be different if the bridegroom himself disclosed his own affairsIs it prudent for a bride to disclose to her spouse her pre-marriage flirtations?
Mohamed, I see from your name that you are most probably Muslim.
I know that for people of your religion a woman is always in danger being accused by anyone (mostly men) for any indecent act... most of the times it is lies and stupidity, but well, leaving this aside.
If I would marry a Muslim man, I would keep my mouth shut for the rest of my life regarding anything of my past which had to do with (even the most innocent flirts) any former loves in my life.
Sorry to say, but I would even be cautions with man in general, but with a man who is a Muslim, marrying into a Muslim family and its traditions which always go straight against women's rights and personal freedom - best thing to shut up and keep everything to yourself and if anything might come up later - deny it!!
No, a man obviously can do what he likes and will not get judged by your society, these rules of conduction are only made for women and to oppress women in their freedom and free choice.
No, I don麓t think that all men are the same, but there is also always the family in the back, especially the mother of law who is like a craw... judging and widespread rumours and making the life of a daughter in-law miserable... so, who of you guys is really free to live with a free and modern spirit?
And no, the best attitude would be to say that none of the spouses wants to hear anything about the former life of his spouse, making this clear in the beginning only brings benefits during the marriage.
Because I think that it is clear that only a stupid and weak character would judge over somebody鈥檚 past or even be jealous about somebody麓s past.
And how can you cheat on somebody you did not even know at this moment?
And why should you know about it? It does not concern you and it does not belong to you, it is my past and a part of my life, which is finished鈥?
I think people who don麓t think like that should not get married, as they will make their partners life miserable on the long run 鈥?something typical for you guys, sorry to say that.Is it prudent for a bride to disclose to her spouse her pre-marriage flirtations?
If you can't answer that then your too immature to be getting married. It is a private non issue and shouldn't be disclosed. If it is revealed at a later time from another source then it should be a non issue on either side. I would have that conversation. The past is private and your own unless you were a criminal in some way. People still have a right to their own individual life's. You come together in many ways but you still have boundaries and separate healthy life. You are two people not one.
Principally, both must disclose everything even before engagement. Cheating is very dangerous in marriage the long run. Rarely pre-marital affairs are hidden permanently. Those who enjoy such affairs of cheating should think of getting married soon instead before doing any such thing. That will be more comfortable %26amp; tension free. God does not forgive cheaters. Sooner or later they are sure to get his punishment %26amp; live with permanent mental tensions %26amp; lives full of disasters, having neither pleasure nor satisfaction. God is greatest(Allahu Akbar).
no a girl should not tell her husband about the past as it can affect her life in future,a mentality of a guy is very much different from girl, a girl can accept a guy who has relationship in past but guy cannot,all men are possessive by nature they cannot bear this reality t.so if you want to save your married life,dont disclose it to ur husband.
past is past,why to discuss it and spoil the future.
A bride should not disclose her pre-marriage flirtation or affairs
the marriage agreement start from the date of marriage, and it does not concern with what happened earlier. The marriage agreement is violated if either or both parties behave irresponsibly after the date of marriage.
Even the bridegroom need not disclose his affairs
Marriage is for life. All of it. Not just the future.
You cannot make her tell you anything though if she does not want to.
If he has his head screwed on straight, there is ';danger'; of no marriage if she is not open to discuss her life with him.
After marriage a new chapter of life begins, living behind all mischief's and craziness of the past youthful pleasure. It is better and rather wise not to drag confusions, speculations and conclusions on either of the spouse by discussing the past events. Thanks.
If you were not in her life romantically at the time, it is none of your business.
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