How to cope through a broken marriage?

My Husband and I just separated and my heart is tore apart. I have cried and cried to him. Telling him I did not want it this way. But he insist it's the best for him and I. I can't eat good, sleep good or do normal activities without feeling yucky or terribly upset. So how do I cope each day with this horrible feeling?





How to cope through a broken marriage?
You need to take care of yourself. Make a new plan for your life and work at it. You will be sad for awhile but keep busy working towards a new life and before you know it you will have one. if you focus on the pain and loss nothing will get better. it's a hard one but you can get past this. Day by day.How to cope through a broken marriage?
It's horrible to love and want someone who doesn't love and want you back. It's normal to feel the way you do too. It will take a lot of time to get through this, but you need to remind yourself always that you don't really want someone that doesn't want you. If he thinks it is for the best, then he has his reasons and nothing you can say or do will change that. Try to stay busy with friends and family; don't look for someone else too soon and use this time to be good to yourself. Good luck.
The only way to get over something like this is time. Sorry. There really isn't any other remedy. Sometimes people take advantage of the fact that someone loves them and the tell the person that they want some time just so they can breathe and do what they want until they are ready to come back. It's not fair. I would tell him that maybe he is right and that the split would probably be the best thing for the both of you. That will get him to start thinking about what he is losing instead of automatically knowing that you would except him back anytime. Play hard to get.
I know it is hard I am working through a break-up myself. I too have cried many a tears for this man. But it came to a point that I could no longer handle the mental abuse I have taken from him. If he told you that it was better for him and you really he is only thinking of himself. Many times a man will walk out of a relationship because he (1) has someone else, (2) he really was unhappy. So think of yourself in this situation I assure you he not crying any tears over this Stay focused and strong. One day a time my friend one day a time.



Oh Honey..HUGS!! I went through this 2 1/2 years ago after 19 years of marriage. I know exactly how you feel. You have to keep busy. Clean house. I use my anger and sadness to redo my front yard. Tore out a lot of bushes I hated. I also painted the inside of my house. It doesn't feel like it now but it truly does get better. Took me almost 2 years to reach a point where I no longer cry at the thought of him. Hugs and Blessings to you. Email me if you want to chat. Hang in there.
Forget what every body says, You can't hear that right now . I know . The words are just words that have no meaning at this point. I was so distraught i lost 30 something pounds and i'm not a heavy person.It's just something you have to go through and you will get through it. There will be good days and bad , good hours and bad. It will even get down to minutes when you have convinced yourself it has to be,then all you want to do is tell them you are sorry and take you back. Screw him. You are better than that.You will find the best advice from complete strangers. i Will promise you this. There will be a time when you can laugh at how bad you were. I'm still sad it had to be but when i look back and see how i let someone else have that much control over me i laugh my *** off. Hope this helps . good luck
Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control.


All the money in the world cannot bring back Yesterday.





We cannot undo a single act we performed;


we cannot erase a single word we said.


Yesterday is gone forever.





The other day we should not worry about is Tomorrow


with all its possible adversities, its burdens,


its large promise and its poor performance;


Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control.





Tomorrow's sun will rise,


either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds, but it will rise.


Until it does, we have no stake in Tomorrow,


for it is yet to be born.





This leaves only one day, Today.


Any person can fight the battle of just one day.


It is when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities


Yesterday and Tomorrow that we break down.





It is not the experience of Today that drives a person mad,


it is the remorse or bitterness of something which happened Yesterday


and the dread of what Tomorrow may bring.





Let us, therefore, Live but one day at a time.


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It's tough. Very tough. But you have to literally take it one day at a time.





It would be a good idea to go out with old friends again, but make sure you don't hook up with anyone because that will just make you feel worse. You should also seek counseling and join a church...many churches have specific programs for people in just your situation. You'll be in groups with people going through the same thing you are and you won't feel nearly as alone.





Time does go on. Slowly.
Take time for yourself. Learn and grown. I was married for twenty years I did not get involved with anyone until four years later. This is one of the hardest things I ever had to go thru alone. Talk to your friends as much as you need to. If you need to cry then cry trust me it helps. I am so sorry to hear that you are going thru this I feel for you. I would not watch any romantic movies or go where I knew there were couples it made me sick inside. I did the same thing you did. I know this may not sound like any recourse now but as time goes on its gets easier.
Think about what you need to do tomorrow. Then do it! You must remember that it's not the END all that Life always finds away. True happiness comes (not from others) but with in you! One day you will smile again. The next day you will laugh. Bad feeling do subside and turn into Joy with in time.
Keep BUSY. Join a group or class. Take up a hobby. Go out and meet new people. Get some anti-depressants if you are really feeling low. They can work wonders and there is no shame in it if it will help you cope.


I am sorry you have to go through this.
Just one day and night at a time. It will get better. Try to exercise too.