Can an affair actually make a marriage better?

I found out about my husbands affair this June. And now, our marriage is more loving than ever before. He is more loving, understanding, caring than he has ever been. I love him with all my heart. Can an affair actually make a marriage better?
I don't think it gets that much better that quick. I think you're in the ';honeymoon phase'; and that this newness will wear off eventually and the old problems that led to his affair will creep back in. Be prepared.Can an affair actually make a marriage better?
Yes. An affair can absolutely make a marriage better. It doesn't happen in the majority of cases but it can happen. As long as each of you are putting forth the effort it takes to rebuild (and this is done on a daily basis), you can continue to succeed. One poster is right though, you must keep up with it (counseling, honesty, communication) or old behaviors return. On a side note, I love how people always say ';I could never'; or ';I would never.'; Those are two phrases that disappeared from my mouth the second I got married and had children.
I find it really hard to believe this is the truth. It kind of seems like you're a husband who's done this to his wife and is looking for some kind of justification.





An affair can never make a marriage better. I don't care how well he treats you afterwards, or how much more you appreciate each other when you realise what you nearly lost -- you damaged the relationship, and you damaged your partner. Even if the cracks don't show on the surface...
Well I guess for you two it might have been a good thing. If someone has had an affair and their out to prove to their mate that they screwed around and are now sorry for it and is willing to do what ever they have to to prove to them this will not happen again by their actions, then I say hey good luck!! So if he has changed and is now proving to you that he loves you and he will never do it again, then I say HOORAH for you. It's the actions that he needs to do to prove it. What I mean by that is doing what he is saying. He's got to get your trust back. And if you think he's doing that, then good luck. I really hope it works out for you two. I say it is rare someone learns their lesson from screwing around. BUT I believe it's not impossible. I'm not sure if an affair can make a marriage better?? But maybe it might teach your cheating husband a lesson?? OH don't listen to NAYSA??? Shes just another one of those idiots thats not really on here to HELP people. Shes just on here to bust balls?? Let me tell ya%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;shes not very good at it. She sounds like a little teeny bopper???
Good for you. But ask yourself this. Are you truly, honestly OK with everything, or are you being dishonest with yourself on it? It is very easy to lie to yourself so that you can justify certain things. If this is the case, then you are just repressing feelings.





But if you are honest and are truly happy, then good for you.
Well, it seems to have worked out for you, but sadly, that is not the experience of most. Generally, it's a very hurtful and emotionally damaging experience.
Well if that's the case than make the marriage even better get you some side action. Are you kidding.
You must be the exception to the rule. I could never get past a cheating spouse.
just a show because he got found out if you had not found out your marriage wound still be dragging along.
Well its because he's kissing your *** now because he got in trouble.



he is probably still cheating.
No.








It can't.











Thanks for the points.
It all depends on you. Personally, If I were in that position then no.
i guess so. normally it doesnt though...