I know. I wish a marriage license were more like a driver's license, where you could choose to renew it every 5-7 years or so. That would keep both spouses on their toes, alert and in-shape, mentally and physically. Marriage is supposed to be life long commitment but frankly don't you think there is something wrong in it ?
I honestly believe that the reason most marriages fail is that people are lazy and spoiled. Self absorbed if you will. Its easier to throw in the towel and find someone else than to put in the work that is necessary to make any relationship work. It doesn't have to end in divorce or an unhappy marriage. These are not the only two options. The third option is to actually care enough about the union to cultivate it. Take care of one another. Understand what the non-negotiables of the other person are...and do your best not to cross those lines. Value it as much as you do the car that you take for oil changes and wax every weekend. Take care of it...because if you don't...you lose the most valuable thing any person ever has...their family. Too many children only see their dad's every other weekend. Too many of us are too complacent about caring for the truly important things. There's nothing wrong with the institution of marriage. There's something wrong with people...and they can fix it.
i don't think there is anything wrong with marriage, i think it has more to do with the people who are getting married. i think too many people get married for the wrong reasons, people who are selfish and or immature. Marriage isn't about accommodating oneself, but rather about accommodating the other person. This mutual giving is what Marriage is about.
Love is sacrifice. Marriage is loving some one everyday.
I feel marriage has been overrated. I mean its like peer pressure to be married before you get old or die. How many remarriages are there that end up broken? Some take marriage like a game. Some take marriage like a joke. Even those who have been married nearly 15-30 years end up divorcing. My sister is one of them. She was married for nearly 25 years and got divorced last year cause he enjoyed going to massage parlors. Some divorce cause of abuse, drugs, cheating, boredom, alcohol, laziness or attracted to each other. There are some solid good reasons to divorce. I am divorced from an abusive/drug addict. I wanted to live so I had to get rid of him. I still love him but I just couldn't deal with all those drug outburst.
marriage is a scam, its just a legal status, more than anything, if two people want to spend there lives together, they don't need a legal document and special tax bracket, they should just do it, then if anything ever went awry, it wouldn't even matter, course, this is coming from some one who hates the very concept of monogamy.
Totally agree. I have been married for 7 years and I often wish I had a wife that was more interested in politics, getting an education, and the stuff I'm interested in. I have cheated, but realized it just wasn't for me. I don't think she has cheated, but I don't know, maybe she has.
I found this as I was about to ask the women if they really think sole mates exist.
I think the divorce rate is about 50% which does not say much about the institution or marriage. The institution of marriage however is quite sound and perfect. The problem is that we make bad choices, real bad choices,
Marriage is for women.
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